Open letter to the judgmental moms I've encountered within the last year.
Hailey's Mommy: Is it because you get to stay at home with your little one Monday through Friday while I alternate dropping mine off at daycare and at Grandma's? Or could it be that I broke some cardinal mom rule by not being able to take a full three- to six-month maternity leave in this recession, and now the bond with my daughter is severely damaged? Whatever the case may be, please keep your comments and sneers to yourself. I really don't care what you think of me.
Don't get me wrong, I think it is wonderful that you get to stay at home and raise your child. Trust me, there is nothing I would like more than to spend every minute with my munchkin and not miss a moment in her life. But the reality is I'm a full-time working mom -- period. This is who I was before I became a mom, and this is still who I am now. I work my a** off, every day, so that I can give my daughter all the things I didn't have growing up -- all while building a solid foundation for her future. The choice to have her in daycare was not a last resort. Believe it or not, it was a first choice.
When my husband and I decided to grow our little family and transition from being longtime pet parents into real parents, we planned every detail we could think of. I cross-referenced things I had learned from taking Child Development courses back in college to all the new information I was getting via magazines, websites, friends, colleagues -- and even from producing children's programming. So trust me when I say my daughter is getting the best care that she can possibly get. Even more so, the bond she has with her grandparents is magical. And even though I can't be with her all the time, I'm the first person she sees in the morning and the last person she sees at night.
I don't give a damn what your insight on the matter is, nor do I care what you think I can learn from your parenting method. Really, who are you to validate me and tell me what the best thing I can do for my kid is? Teaching my daughter to be true to herself and to NEVER be judgmental is the best Iesson I can teach her. Let's hope you feel the same about what you pass on to your child.
|Hailey's Mommy, also known as Shelly De Leon, is a long time pet parent and first time mom to a lovable super-active toddler. Prior to momlogic, she worked in television production and endured almost impossible shoot schedules and insane travel. Now, with a walking toddler, a Yorkie, a Moddle, a husband, and a fulltime job, everyday life is a challenge she loves to take on. She's a career professional and a wife, but her favorite title is "Mommy".|