Siblings who age and continue to hate each other's guts have more negative behavior and worse outcomes.
Dr. Janet Taylor: Did you hear about the two 80-plus sisters who are squabbling over a failed agreement? It seems that they are both gamblers and agreed to share future earnings after one of them won over $150,000 almost a decade ago. Lightning struck again and instead of dementia, one of them has amnesia. Not to worry, a signed and notarized paper is in place, but they are still at each other's 80-year-old throats. Mama didn't say there would be days like this.
Aren't your siblings supposed to have your back? Apparently not. It appears that getting over feeling like Johnny or Susie was treated better than you is hard to forget. Siblings who age and continue to hate each other's guts have more negative behavior and worse outcomes. On the other hand, those adults who have less sibling rivalry can provide more support and companionship, have shared memories and bottom-line help each other more through life's inevitable changes.
Think about it, like it or not, your sibling not only shares the same bloodlines but can easily put your life in context. At the family picnic, you don't have to explain why crazy Uncle George always gets drunk at the family picnic. He just does. That closeness can come in handy when you need a shoulder to cry on, want to vent or have to make difficult family decisions.
Adult siblings should provide support not judgment, know how to fight fair, and work on being civil, friendly and building family for one another. Just remember, you can't take it with you when it comes to money. Know when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em by aiming for something much more valuable.