More into getting knocked up than knockin' boots? Experts say some gals have a preggo jones.
Vivian Manning-Schaffel: It's no duh the Madonna complex has been revered throughout history. Now that Hollywood has helped turn celebrity baby-watching into big-brand-spawning business, pregnancy is more glam than ever. The world loves a preggo, and the preggos love the perks, including loads of attention, a pass on the ladies' room line, the power to command a guilt-free midnight ice cream run, and in my case, a seat on the subway.
Some even say pregnancy can be as addictive as any drug. This Women's Health magazine article by Martha Brockenbrough states, "Some women may like being pregnant a little too much, often driven to rapidly reproduce out of insecurity, a craving for attention, or feelings of abandonment by their own parents."alcoholics and drug addicts use substances to fill a psychological void," says Beverly Hills psychiatrist Carole Lieberman, M.D. Every one of us at some point encounters this void, adds New York family therapist Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D., author of Financial Infidelity. "You want to have a purpose in this world. You want to feel less lonely."
Just look at Nadya Suleman, a.k.a. Octomom, who recently copped to the fact that she kept getting knocked up to fill an emotional need that she couldn't satisfy with a romantic relationship. As she reportedly told one journalist, "I just longed for certain attachments with another person that I really lacked." But herein lies a very expensive question: Who's going to pay the recently estimated $220K
So what does one do to rehab this overwhelming urge to nurture? Will Bumpaholics Anonymous meetings become the hot trend du jour? I've noticed that, around the time a mother's youngest turns two, this intense nostalgia for babyhood tends to kick in. For some, it might be part of a wistful acknowledgement that their baby-making days are over. For others, it might be a signal to hit the sheets.
Personally, I found pregnancy fun and exciting, but I also found it stressful, uncomfortable, and downright scary at times. Which is why, after baking two buns in the oven, I decided to officially close my kitchen. What say you, readers? Do you happen to know anyone who is addicted to having babies?
|Vivian Manning-Schaffel has written for Babble, Parenting, The Advocate, The New York Post, Business Week and a variety of other publications and lives and works in the heart of breeder Brooklyn with her husband and two kids. She authors two pop culture blogs: The Mad Mom and A Hag Supreme, and is on the web at vivianmanningschaffel.com.|