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Bumpaholics: Addicted to Being Pregnant

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More into getting knocked up than knockin' boots? Experts say some gals have a preggo jones.

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Vivian Manning-Schaffel: It's no duh the Madonna complex has been revered throughout history. Now that Hollywood has helped turn celebrity baby-watching into big-brand-spawning business, pregnancy is more glam than ever. The world loves a preggo, and the preggos love the perks, including loads of attention, a pass on the ladies' room line, the power to command a guilt-free midnight ice cream run, and in my case, a seat on the subway.

Some even say pregnancy can be as addictive as any drug. This Women's Health magazine article by Martha Brockenbrough states, "Some women may like being pregnant a little too much, often driven to rapidly reproduce out of insecurity, a craving for attention, or feelings of abandonment by their own parents."

"Women who are obsessed with being pregnant are literally filling an emptiness inside of them, just as alcoholics and drug addicts use substances to fill a psychological void," says Beverly Hills psychiatrist Carole Lieberman, M.D. Every one of us at some point encounters this void, adds New York family therapist Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D., author of Financial Infidelity. "You want to have a purpose in this world. You want to feel less lonely."

Just look at Nadya Suleman, a.k.a. Octomom, who recently copped to the fact that she kept getting knocked up to fill an emotional need that she couldn't satisfy with a romantic relationship. As she reportedly told one journalist, "I just longed for certain attachments with another person that I really lacked." But herein lies a very expensive question: Who's going to pay the recently estimated $220K to raise each of those cuties? Sure, one could argue that love is the most important thing, but love alone doesn't pay the rent or the grocery bills incurred by 14 kids. And we can't all strike reality show deals, now can we?

So what does one do to rehab this overwhelming urge to nurture? Will Bumpaholics Anonymous meetings become the hot trend du jour? I've noticed that, around the time a mother's youngest turns two, this intense nostalgia for babyhood tends to kick in. For some, it might be part of a wistful acknowledgement that their baby-making days are over. For others, it might be a signal to hit the sheets.

Personally, I found pregnancy fun and exciting, but I also found it stressful, uncomfortable, and downright scary at times. Which is why, after baking two buns in the oven, I decided to officially close my kitchen. What say you, readers? Do you happen to know anyone who is addicted to having babies?

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Lynn March 12, 2011, 3:31 PM

I definitely know someone addicted to pregnancy. She has two toddlers now, has no discernible income, this will be her 3rd baby paid for by the state (welfare), and she pays absolutely NO attention to the two beautiful kids she already has (ALL her time is spent online - on mommy boards, baby name boards, organic diaper boards, etc.). For her it seems to be all about “Me! Look at me! Ooooh and aaaah over my belly, my ultrasound, my doctor appointments, ask me when I’m due, ask to touch my belly, pay ME allllll the attention.” I am so, so, so sad for all the babies who mean nothing to her once they are born. She’s already talking about a fourth.

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anonymous June 14, 2011, 10:03 AM

This is a sickness. Yes, there are some psychotic women who are addicted to pregnancy and they need intense psychiatric help. No, they need a slap in the face. They should get a job and hobbies.

Mothers of large to very large families are addicted to pregnancy. They keep churning out children after children for their eldest children to raise.

What these women need is to be forcibly sterilized. No intelligent woman has more than two children.

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