Twins have enough in common. Do they really need the same last name?
Single Mom Seeking: I was recently chatting with a pregnant mom who just found out that she's having twins.
Like any other couple, she and her husband have been talking every night about names. But it's not what you think.
You see, this mom-to-be kept her maiden name when she got married. "I like my name better than his," she explains. "Mine is really easy to spell -- a strong English name -- but his is one of those butchered-on-Ellis Island last names that you have to spell every time you say it."
Which led this couple to discuss: whose last name should their twins have?
Here's what they came up with:
"We'll give one child my last name and the other child his."
"I think this is a great compromise," she says. "But I worry about the backlash from our traditional families. Have any of you done this?"
This got me doing a bit of research. A number of mothers chatting in online twin forums seem to hold the same viewpoint: don't give your twins different surnames.
Why? These moms say that twins have an especially close relationship, and giving them different last names could jeopardize this.
I did chat with one dad who said that he doesn't have twins, but he and his wife gave their kids two different last names. His daughter got his wife's surname, and his son got his. "Everyone was happy with the compromise," he says.
Have you ever heard of this? One kid getting Mom's last name, and the other getting Dad's?
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking" blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about life."|