Leigh Koechner: When I finally got married, I was so ready to have kids and be a stay-at-home mom. Good-bye time restricting office job, hello freedom!
I would push my stroller to the coffee shop, do lunch, and play tennis with ladies at the country club.
Boy was I wrong.
Not only did I not live close enough to a coffee shop to walk, or belong to a country club, but my son wouldn't sit long enough for me to place my lunch order.
Four kids later I was wearing sweats, chubby and stuck. The mundane routine was bringing me down. Then, I had an epiphany. Enough of the "woe is me" and hello to absoluteLeigh! There would be no more mundane moments.
On Wednesdays I created laundry day. My best mom friend came over. I made an appetizer, poured a glass of champagne, and put on some music. We grooved while doing laundry and our kids played on the floor.
I donned my new red high heels and lit a candle to vacuum. That way they were broken in if my husband planned a romantic night.
Friday afternoon play dates were for me and my kids. I would invite mom friends and their kids over. We would share our favorite seasonal cocktail, do our nails, or an exercise video.
In line at the post office, I noticed the majority of people were Latino. What a perfect time to practice mi espanol. My line friend, Armando, was happy to converse with me. I learned the word listo that day. That means ready. Es usted listo por mi?
At the grocery store, I sang out loud to every song they played over the speaker and even busted a move down the aisles. My daughter begged me to stop, but I told her, "No, enjoy it. Try it. Don't judge it. Live your life. Be bold, be strong. Don't ever worry about what people think about you. Make decisions that warm your heart and make you smile."
Create your fun, create your space, and create your happiness.
Start small: think of something you are grateful for before your feet hit the floor in the morning. Meditate -- even if you don't know how. Always light a candle. Laugh really hard. Cry really hard. Put on music and dance. Do something that makes you feel uncomfortable everyday. Get unstuck. Celebrate life. Go wild!
My new thing is wearing tutus and pearls to the grocer. My children are not sure about their mom gone wild, but they are happy because I am happy.
|Leigh Koechner is the happily married mother of four who likes a glass of pinot noir at 5pm sharp. She is the author and performer of a one woman show, "Miss Junior Overland Park." The story begins with her entering a mall beauty pageant in 4th grade and ends with her meeting the love of her life, losing her uterus, and having a surrogate carry her babies. She was a part of Oxygen's "Life Out Loud" series of one person shows. Since then she's been trying to create a reality show for herself, enjoys bit parts her actor husband throws her way, and is enjoys her kids a little bit too.|