Leslie Adler settles another dispute in this week's "Friendship Court." Check it out.
Margo from Baltimore writes: If there was such a thing as a "friendship crime," this story would qualify. My husband and my sisters worked for three months, planning and coordinating a surprise 30th birthday party for me. I don't even believe people can be surprised, but I had no clue ... until a week before. That is when my alleged best friend of over ten years, Jessica, calls me and says, "I can't take it anymore. I can't believe you haven't caught on yet. Bob (my husband) and your sisters are planning this huge surprise party for you next Saturday and if I don't tell you, you will just show up at the place in the wrong clothes and without your hair being 'done' ... so surprise!" I was speechless. I hung up on Jessica and I have not spoken to her since. I acted surprised at my party but wouldn't even look at her. She came over to me and said "You look beautiful! See, I did you a favor!" The only favor I have in mind for Jessica is that she won't have to buy me a present for my 31st 'cause she won't be in my life then. Please tell me you agree.
Leslie Adler: Dear Margo: I too am speechless. I cannot imagine what Jessica was thinking. If your husband and sisters cared what your hair or makeup would look like at your 30th birthday party, they would have told you about a party, wouldn't they? All I can surmise is Jessica was jealous of your "surprise" or the efforts being put in on your behalf or that she is shallow ... and none of these are appealling choices. Be thankful for the people who love you enough to make your special events great and move on from those who try to sabotage them.
What would you do in this situation? Tell it to The Friendship Court!!