Last night's documentary shook this psychologist to the core.
Dr. Michelle Golland: I actually feel dirty after watching last night's documentary on Octomom. We only needed to see the video of the birth and Nadya Suleman's entitled and unconscionable attitude while in the delivery room to know this was going to be a very bad situation. There was no regard for the health and welfare of those tiny babies who were in critical condition. The moment they were pulled from Nadya's womb, the exploitation of these poor children began. Her total disregard for the babies and her other children was evident early on.
I am disgusted and frightened by her delusional thinking and total disconnect from emotion except when in "terror" about her oldest son missing when she is on the phone to 911. Otherwise, Nadya's flat affect appeared odd. It wasn't a calm, in control, motherly attitude but a disconnected and very numb person I watched tonight.
The only person who seemed to be expressing the appropriate feeling for the entire situation was little Caleb, who was angry and acting out the entire two hours. He was hitting the cameras and the cameraman constantly, almost begging for them to stop filming him. He has every right to be completely enraged at the situation his irresponsible mother has put him and all of his siblings in with her reckless and naÃ¯ve choices.
Nadya Suleman appears to be stunted emotionally. I felt like I was watching a teenager raising 14 kids with a bunch of nannies helping her hold it all together. The exchanges between her mother and herself were so filled with tension and justified anger on her mother's side. I couldn't help but empathize with her mom and feeling like she had raised a completely out-of-control narcissistic person. I am sure she is going over in her mind the choices she made with Nadya along the way.
There was a moment where I think we saw the "real" Nadya. It was when she was asked about the biological father and her sexual relationships. Her responses were so immature and strange, giddy almost, that it became even clearer that she is a woman who is deeply emotionally disturbed. I am truly sad for all of these kids and frightened for thier emotional and physical well-being more than ever after watching last night's show.
I am disgusted at the doctor who, even after Nadya's parents expressed great concern for her having more children, went ahead with the in-vitro process. You can see Nadya's mother's true concern that she would try to get pregnant again. With how disturbed I believe Nadya Suleman is, I wouldn't put it past her to get pregnant again. She is trying to fill a need that will never be met even with the amount of attention she is receiving because having the babies was never the solution. The solution should be to deal with her true issues of anger, sadness and loneliness, not to bring baby after baby into the world believing the next one will make it all better, will make her feel complete. Nadya will never be complete.
|Dr. Golland is a USC graduate and a licensed Clinical Psychologist (PSY#16974). She works with adults, teens and is an expert in the field of marriage and relationships. Dr. Golland has given her expert advice on CNN, HLN, MSNBC, ABC, and Fox news. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband and two wonderfully exhausting children.|