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Push Presents: Tacky or Terrific?

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Momlogic posed the question: If "push presents" are tacky, are push registries just out of hand? You weighed in on the subject. Take a look!

husband holding a present for wife.

I got "push" presents for both kids, diamond stud earrings the first time and a right-hand ring the 2nd time. My husband asked me ahead of time if I wanted something and I said yes, and that I wanted it to be something "I could enjoy every day" and left it at that. I smile every time I see my jewels, along with my wedding ones, and as materialistic as they are, they remind me of my life's most precious joys. Honestly, I do not want to go there, but I sense some jealousy and angst in your post. Push registries, on the other hand, this is the first I have heard of such a thing. -- Anon

I haven't gotten one, but I don't see why you have a problem with what other people get. Our deal is that I get an Edible Arrangements "bouquet" when I give birth this time, and I'm super excited about it. But if we had the money, I'm sure DH would buy me something pretty and sparkly. Yes, a baby is an awesome gift, but why not be rewarded for all your hard work? -- Natalie

I agree with the writer ... I have 4 children, and each were worth their weight in gold. I had two showers held for me for my first child and none thereafter. Although friends may have given us gifts after the babies were born, it was due to their generosity and not because I signed up for FREEBIES. That's not why I had children. Giving a gift is fine if that is what your husband, friend, or lover wants to do, but to have a registry for something like this is utterly ridiculous. -- Sharon

My gift for the first three months was that my child and I survived it! For a first-time mom with a child that, if he wasn't sleeping, he was crying ... it was so hard ... and every time he'd start crying, my husband would go play video games with my step-son or go fishing. Somehow I found strength that I had no clue I had. Point is ... that's when I should have gotten a gift! -- Anonymous

If your husband wants to get you something for giving him a child, then that's great, but you specifically registering for something or asking for it point-blank is kind of superficial. Now I don't consider food part of this. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I was vomiting all nine months, so I asked my husband to please get me a pastrami, salami, ham, and cheese sandwich after I gave birth. It was the best meal ever. -- May

I've never heard of a registry for this, but my hubby gave me a gorgeous antique-style ring the day our second child was born. I was completely surprised. It was something I had said months (years maybe?) earlier that I loved, and then I forgot about it, so I was thrilled when he gave that to me on that special day. I love the ring, and when people ask (they often do ... it's a pretty ring), I say, "My husband gave that to me the day Brodie was born," and they're always impressed. -- Barb

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Jess August 7, 2009, 9:50 AM

I’ve never heard them called “push presents” or heard of registries. I thought they were “congratulations presents”, as in “Congratulations, now you’re a Mom!” I’ve known moms (incl. myself) to receive flowers, gift certificates, jewelry, or spa visits. I’ve had friends who adopted receive such gifts from their partners. I thought it was a sweet tradition that some people do, like handing out cigars. I’ve never heard of women expecting them or having registries. When I was a kid, we received a “sibling present” from my parents or grandparents whenever another baby was born (there are 5 of us) and my Mom got different charms for each of us from my Dad. We thought of it as a way of celebrating the baby’s first birth-day and a way for the whole family to celebrate. As for the charms, b/c each was unique, I (and my sibs) liked finding “me” on her bracelet and knowing that it was her special token of remembrance from my Dad on the day they first “met” me!

Anonymous August 7, 2009, 5:11 PM

Another LAME fad that everyone buys into. And we wonder why people are in debt.

HeeHee August 7, 2009, 5:15 PM

Does a woman who has a C-section get a push present?

Fruit Basket Review Guy August 13, 2009, 9:01 PM

A fruit basket is a perfect push present.

SesshoumarusGirl August 14, 2009, 3:50 PM

Why can’t the joy of having your child be enough?

Immobilier Bretagne March 6, 2011, 8:33 PM

When I initially commented I clicked the -Notify me when new feedback are added- checkbox and now every time a remark is added I get four emails with the same comment. Is there any way you can remove me from that service? Thanks!

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