The fact of the matter is, it's a woman's choice. It is not my mother's choice, it's not the pediatrician's choice, and it isn't your choice. It is MY choice. So leave the breastfeeding decision up to me, OK?
Momlogic's Talitha: It's incredible to me that such a personal topic -- like breastfeeding -- can have such a public outpouring. Frankly, I am beyond over it. I cannot tell you how many times I have had to explain my uncertainty about breastfeeding -- especially to doctors: "Can I ask WHY?" they ask me. I always feel like my answer isn't good enough for them, as they then follow up with: "Well, it's definitely best for the baby, that's for sure, so even if you can just do it for X amount of time, that would be great. Even if you could just do it for six months, or three months!" Wait, did you not hear what I just said?
It's the parents' decision how they want to raise their children, and it's the parents' decision how they want to feed them. I don't comment on what you are putting in your own mouth, even though it is ridiculously unhealthy. What gives people the right to even ask "Can I ask why?" No, you cannot. It will be simply a decision we make based on what is best for our family.
The other day, as my husband and I were meeting our baby's potential pediatrician, he stuffed a bunch of leaflets in my hands. On the cover: "Our office is pro-breastfeeding!" Immediately, I had a judgment against the office. It's like going to an OB/GYN appointment and finding, displayed on their door, "We are Pro-Life!" This is the patient's business, not the doctor's. As we sat down, the doctor goes: "So I assume you will be breastfeeding," and without waiting for a response, continued his speech about office procedures and vaccinations, etc. I wanted to say, "Excuse me! I assume you feed your children only organic food, and I assume you don't eat any fast food, and I assume you encourage your kids to exercise, and ..." Why are you assuming? As with whatever happens in your household, what happens in mine is my business, not yours.
By the way, I am not an uneducated mom, OK? I know the benefits of breastfeeding. But how do you know that I haven't tried before and it didn't work for me? How do you know what my family's financial situation is and who will remain at home with our newborn?! How do you know I am even capable of breastfeeding? How dare you assume!
No matter what I decide to do (and in case you're wondering, I really don't even know yet), I am going to play it by ear, see how things go. But no matter what, I'll try to be the best mom I can be. And isn't that the most important thing?!