Are we numb to the barbaric treatment of women and girls? This NY Times op-ed columnist seems to think so.
Vivian Manning-Schaffel: I just finished reading this op-ed column for the New York Times by Bob Herbert, and it's left me scratching my head, but not for the reasons you may think.
In the piece, Herbert recounts George Sodini's massacre of innocent women in a Pennsylvania gym last week, with a quote from Sodini's blog that states, "I actually look good. I dress good, am clean-shaven, bathe, touch of cologne -- yet 30 million women rejected me." Sodini killed three women, wounded nine others, and then killed himself.
Um, maybe they rejected him because his cologne couldn't disguise the scent of his insanity.
Herbert compares the tragedy to the Amish schoolhouse massacre, and makes this startling statement: "We have become so accustomed to living in a society saturated with misogyny that the barbaric treatment of women and girls has come to be more or less expected."
He then states, "The mainstream culture is filled with the most gruesome forms of misogyny, and pornography is now a multibillion-dollar industry -- much of it controlled by mainstream U.S. corporations. One of the striking things about mass killings in the U.S. is how consistently we find that the killers were riddled with shame and sexual humiliation, which they inevitably blamed on women and girls. The answer to their feelings of inadequacy was to get their hands on a gun (or guns) and begin blowing people away."
The guy's got a point. This sh*t is wrong, wrong, wrong. We are half the population, dammit. Why put up with this sh*t?
But what would level the playing field? More women like Simone Dadoun-Cohen, who rebrand the pairing of rich, powerful men with the young, beautiful women after them? More soft-core porn? The invention of a penis leash? A Lorena Bobbitt game for your Nintendo Wii? Player who can throw the penis farthest in the forest wins?
Is it any wonder more gals aren't out there trawling Facebook for secret vigilante groups that dismember penises for sport?
We certainly have a lot to be pissed about. So I'm asking you readers for your take: What, as women, could we realistically do to take a stand and put a stop to this?
|Vivian Manning-Schaffel has written for Babble, Parenting, The Advocate, The New York Post, Business Week and a variety of other publications and lives and works in the heart of breeder Brooklyn with her husband and two kids. She authors two pop culture blogs: The Mad Mom and A Hag Supreme, and is on the web at vivianmanningschaffel.com.|