Why am I the last to know about my son's social life?
Bruce Sallan: My son is almost 16 and he now has a girlfriend. Evidently it's "official," as both have declared they're "In a Relationship" on their Facebook pages. My wife and younger son say it's none of my business. I can't help it; I'm curious. Is this so wrong? I also want to be sure he's handling "things" appropriately.
He has gone from being the quintessential guy's guy -- only hanging out with his male buddies -- to having a posse of female friends, one "special" one now. His male friends seem to have bit the dust, except for his bandmates.
Some of his get-togethers at our house will be with three or four of these girls and JUST HIM! Now, maybe I'm jealous, but this is a pretty big change. I know my son is smart, talented, tall, confident, and good-looking (I am his dad, after all), so this is really no surprise.
I suppose it's the sort of passage we want for our kids, versus watching them struggle for friends and a date to the prom. It goes hand-in-hand with his emerging independence, though he still does seem to tolerate me, and I apparently don't embarrass him too much in front of his friends.
But I still want details! My wife tells me in no uncertain terms to "Butt Out!" -- I don't care. I'm dying. What's he doing? Apparently, among his friends, girls and boys are having group sleepovers, which we are not allowing, with or without other kids and parents present.
I suppose it's like all the rest of life that I'm still trying to figure out. I'm just a guy; what do I know?
|Bruce Sallan gave up his showbiz career a decade ago to raise his two boys, full-time, now 13 and 16. His internationally syndicated column, A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW, is his take on the challenges of parenthood and male/female issues, both as a single dad and now, newly remarried, in a blended family. Join Bruce's A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW fan page at Facebook. To contact Bruce, visit his new website brucesallan.com.|