I find it hard to believe that I'm a grown man and I still pout.
Bruce Sallan: When my wife and I don't get along and our communication is in the toilet, I sulk, pout, and take all my toys and go hide in my cave. OK, maybe not all my toys, but you get the picture.
After all my time in therapy, all my time in my men's group, all the ups and downs of marriage, divorce, dating again, and getting married again, I still act like a little boy when my feelings are hurt.
I hate when I do that. It doesn't matter whether I'm right or wrong: I lose! Granted, I'm usually right, but it's the same as being in the crosswalk when a car comes barreling through and runs you down. You still lose. And, with my wife, or any woman for that matter, you can't run away. She/they are just built tougher and better able to withstand periods of silence and our pouting.
Eventually, I give in and start talking again, and maybe we fight a little and, usually, we make up. It often turns out to be a complete misunderstanding or misinterpretation of things said, so we both have lost during the time I was hiding out and she was being quiet as she's "processing" whatever it is that has occurred.
I can't help but think of Rex Harrison in "My Fair Lady," singing "Why Can't a Woman Be More Like a Man?" But what do I know, I'm just a guy.
|Bruce Sallan gave up his showbiz career a decade ago to raise his two boys, full-time, now 13 and 16. His internationally syndicated column, A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW, is his take on the challenges of parenthood and male/female issues, both as a single dad and now, newly remarried, in a blended family. Join Bruce's A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW fan page at Facebook. To contact Bruce, visit his new website brucesallan.com.|