Bottom line: Don't blame the mother if her celebrity child makes a fool out of him or herself on national television.
Candy Spelling: During the last couple of weeks -- when a congressman shouted "You lie" during a presidential address, Serena Williams threatened a tennis linesperson, Kanye West interrupted Taylor Swift at the VMAs, and former senator John Edwards' struggle over whether he's admitting he fathered a child out of wedlock is making headlines -- the national debate has been about manners, etiquette, and if we've all just become too rude for our own good.
I don't have an answer. We can't judge everyone by two politicians, a tennis champion, and a rapper.
But, I am concerned about the mother angle.
I was disappointed when Jay Leno asked Kanye West what his mother would have thought about his interrupting Swift's acceptance speech. The story of Mrs. West's tragic death following surgery didn't belong in this discussion. West's answer produced some awkward TV moments that some people interpreted as blaming grief over his mother's passing (and lack of time off) for this incident.
I respect Oracene Price, mother of both Serena and Venus Williams (and three other successful and respected daughters). She's very wise, yet no one seemed to care what she thought. The agent took precedence, signaling Serena to smile when the press was questioning her about the threats she made.
We all sympathized with Elizabeth, the mother of John Edwards' children, when the story about his extramarital affair hit. There was an outpouring of sympathy for this mother, wife, and cancer victim -- until she wrote a book. Then she was attacked unmercifully for going public about how badly her husband's behavior wounded her.
I think I would have done more than write a book if my husband cheated on me and then tried to justify it by saying I was in remission from my disease at the time.
I don't know anything about the mother of the South Carolina congressman who yelled at the president. I just hope that no one is blaming her for his rude outburst.
Adults have to take responsibility for their behavior. I'll bet you anything the mothers of these four people did not teach them that rudeness or infidelity are acceptable behavior.
|Candy Spelling, author of "Stories from Candyland," had a 50-year hiatus from writing. In 2007, Candy was asked to start blogging ... and has been writing ever since. Candy added "proud grandmother" of Liam Aaron McDermott, born in 2007, and Stella Doreen, born in 2008, to her list of life's special treasures.|