That's right -- I said it ... your kid could possibly like me more than you. And here's why.
Mary Poppins: I have seen it time and time again -- the panic in the face of your child when I'm leaving or when she listens to me instead of you, and yes, it is sad that I have somehow managed to supersede your position as mommy. But fear not, here are five reasons why this happens:
1. I have no mommy guilt. I don't run out the door for a meeting, leaving my kid, who desperately wants to play with me. I am with her all day, so I don't blame her bad behavior on others or myself. I make her take responsibility for her actions and give her loving praise when the situation calls for it.
2. I know how to use the word "no." A lot of working moms struggle with this. They don't want to tell their child no because of the whole mommy guilt thing, but they also don't want to have an out-of-control child. The problem is that you use the word "no" incorrectly. You come home tired and overworked and just say no to everything because you are out of patience. I say no because I am actually listening to what your daughter is saying. Kids are not stupid -- they know when they are being engaged in conversation or ignored.
3. I do not try to buy her love. Your daughter knows how to work you. She catches that look in your eye that means you are going to disappoint her and capitalizes on it. She knows that she will get that new Barbie she wants when you don't show up to her dance recital, but she also knows that I'll be there waiting for her at the end of the show.
4. I do not compromise my standards and expectations. Your daughter knows the kind of behavior I will tolerate from her. She knows that if we are out at the park and she throws a tantrum, we go home. She does not cry and whine all the time because she understands that I will listen to her if she uses her words. You, on the other hand, just give her whatever she wants because you don't know how to deal with her.
5. Your child respects me. I am there. I set boundaries. So when I tell her she has done a good job or that she cannot play outside, she knows I mean it. She has come to depend on the fact that I do and say things with her best interest at heart.
|Mary Poppins is a nanny/babysitter who is not afraid to tell parents what is really going on with their kids. With over eight years of experience, Mary Poppins offers fresh commentary on issues that many families are facing today. You may not like what she says, but you recognize the truth in it.|