On Oprah, a sex expert suggested we buy our daughters vibrators. Well? Would you? Or do you have trouble even saying "vibrator" and "daughter" in the same sentence?

We asked our community members to weigh in:

Yes I definitely would. I think it's important that she knows that sex is for pleasure, not for popularity. I also think that if she knows the pleasure she is able to have (with a vibrator), she might not settle for the lame thrustings of some teen boy. -- momlogic's Radical Mommy

Um, no. While I will teach my daughter about SAFE sex, I can't even begin to think about giving her a vibrator. That is for her to explore if she wishes. I won't be crossing that line! -- RP Mom

I just read the other comments and can understand your points of view, but in this day when kids are so savvy about everything, open communication about even the most uncomfortable subjects is important. Feeling like you're buying her pleasure or condoning pre-marital sex is certainly one way to look at it, and no matter how much self-worth she has, she will still be vulnerable to peer pressure and curiosity. I'm not saying to run out and buy your daughter a vibe, but it's important not to stick our heads in the sand and think that just because we don't talk about it, they aren't trying it out, or talking among friends ... who by the way don't know anything more than she does. -- Samantha

Thankfully my daughter isn't even close to "that" age yet. However, I do have a teenage boy. I've always had an open relationship with him about discussing sex. If he has wanted to know something, heard children talking in the playground, or seen something on TV, then he has always known that he can ask me and he will get an honest reply. He knows that he doesn't have to go to his ill-informed classmates and friends, who most likely do not know what they are talking about, and be mis-informed. I plan on having the same type of relationship with my other two children. However, there is only so far I will go with the home sex-ed classes and I think that I will be drawing the line at vibrator shopping. -- Tonya

That's sad. At 19 I was already pregnant because I too felt too awkward talking to my mom. After it was already too late, my mother confessed to never feeling comfortable approaching me on the subject because she felt I would be too grossed out. Well guess what? What she didn't approach me on, my boyfriends and friends did. Sex, especially teen sex, was and remains all over the movies we watch, the music we listen to, and now the Internet. Even a movie as "family friendly" as "Transformers" has images tempting teens with a scantily clad and sweaty girl bending over a car while a young man lusts for her. Almost all media is focused on coupling.

While I am not sure the purchase of sex toys for our teen daughters is the right path, I can appreciate the idea behind it. Which is communication and knowledge. After all, knowledge is power. The most important knowledge which can be passed down from mother to daughter, however, is emotional, how one should feel before engaging in sexual acts and how one should feel after. SELF-WORTH is key. Coupling with someone is not the spice of life and actually can be a distraction to what's important. I continually ask my daughter what kinds of things she would like in her life, and continue to advise her on the benefits of focusing on those things versus focusing on intimate relationships. Right now, thank God, she desires traveling the world over having a boyfriend. -- Del

There is no way I would buy my daughters sexual toys. They are 22 and 20, and believe me, it never crossed my mind to go that far into their personal life. We have discussed sex, men, protection, and prevention of STDs, pregnancy, masturbation, menstration, and morality. The entire world of sex and maturity. There is no need to go to the toy aisle and pick them up something like that. If they had wanted a vibrator as young women, I would have forbidden any more Cosmo mags from entering the house! Inappropriate and far too advanced for teens, and even at their ages, they can go and get their own! -- Erin Reynolds