I wish e-mail could communicate all that I want it to -- because I'm not a fan of the phone.
Bruce Sallan: I completely love e-mail, as I dislike the phone -- cell or hard line. My former career in showbiz was spent on the phone, so now I love the freedom of answering and responding to e-mail whenever I want. However, e-mail is fraught with problems and, as I just read, is rapidly becoming anachronistic as more immediate forms of communication, such as IMs and Twitter, are taking over (among the younger generation, specifically).
The thing that I keep on forgetting and can't seem to learn is that e-mail is not the same as direct dialogue. Subtlety rarely comes across, and sarcasm usually is lost. Then, there are the bigger risks when dealing with the opposite gender of being misunderstood and accused of flirting or the like.
Now, when you add politics to the mix, you get hate e-mails in response, saying "Take me off your list." This is the thing I don't get. I never just forward e-mail, nor do I keep any "list." Instead, I have always written a personal note explaining why I think this particular article or link has value, not asking for money or any response, and I make each list specifically tailored to those I think might want to look at it. I emphasize "might," as there's this magic button on most computers that says "delete."
So, why do people sometimes get so angry? When friends or colleagues and I are on opposite sides of the political aisle, as during the last presidential campaign, I've stopped sending anything foolish that I know has "that" point-of-view. What's with the others? Is it really such an intrusion? A friend said there's a "push-pull" thing going on, that when you choose to look at something, it's different than when someone puts it "in your face," as with an e-mail. Okay, that makes sense. Sort of. But, what do I know? I'm just a guy.
|Bruce Sallan gave up his showbiz career a decade ago to raise his two boys, full-time, now 13 and 16. His internationally syndicated column, A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW, is his take on the challenges of parenthood and male/female issues, both as a single dad and now, newly remarried, in a blended family. Join Bruce's A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW fan page at Facebook. To contact Bruce, visit his new website brucesallan.com.|