Carol from Texas writes: My friend Janice shocked me. She had a party for her son Derek's birthday last week, and didn't invite my son Ethan. Most of us aren't having parties for our kids at 10. Ethan got a trampoline in the backyard and had two friends sleep over. But Derek had 10 kids at the kids' favorite local restaurant for dinner. Ethan is on his soccer team and is in his religious school carpool. Often, Derek comes to my house after school because Janice won't be home in time, so he just leaves for religious school from here.
Derek probably said he didn't want to invite him (I know Ethan wouldn't want to invite Derek either), and Janice probably said that was okay. I just don't agree, and would never let Ethan (at this age) leave someone out. So now everyone's talking about the party in the carpool, and Ethan wasn't invited. The good news is that he doesn't care, but it's annoying me because we (Janice and I) have had conversations about this very thing!
Am I overreacting?
Leslie Adler: I can see from your title you think your friend dissed your kid. I would just ask you, did your friend diss you or your kid ... or both? And because this is such a good topic for The Friendship Court, I say I abstain from ruling and let momlogic's readers weigh in. So tell us, what do you think?
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