One single mom reaches out to Hailey Glassman with some much-needed advice on dating a certain high-profile dad of eight.
Single Mom Seeking: Dear Hailey,
We recently read about your relationship challenges with Jon Gosselin, and we're writing to you because we care. You say that he's often angry -- and that "he has 'mantrums.'"
"He's like Jekyll and Hyde," you add. "But I still love him."
We're going to be very honest with you: you're the arm candy rebound girl here. We're guessing that this is probably your first experience dating a man with kids ... not to mention a publicity-seeking guy with all kinds of baggage -- the least of which is his eight little kids!
We understand that you care deeply for Jon and want to be there not only for the vacation frolics, but for the tough times -- and this is why we're going to offer some advice.
Jon is still married.
Yes, he resides separately from Kate. And, he takes every opportunity to publicize that his life with Kate is over.
But being "separated" is confusing and often misunderstood. Is Jon truly legally separated? The legal wranglings about custody, parenting time schedules, finances, and future media projects seem highly contentious and far from resolved. The stress associated with a high-stakes divorce case is simply over the top.
In short, Jon is in limbo right now. He's emotionally numb and incredibly confused.
All this adds up to one inescapable conclusion: Jon is not really emotionally available to you. And he's using you to vent his feelings. We're not surprised that Jon likely tells you that you're his world, and the next minute he's "mantruming." Jon's behavior around his unresolved issues are quite typical of men going through a divorce.
You deserve to be loved -- for real. Although stepping away might be the hardest thing you'll ever do, we encourage you to make the healthy emotional choice for you.
You deserve love, comfort, and support. You've demonstrated that you're capable of giving ... how about finding a man who is available and capable of giving to YOU?
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking" blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about life."|