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Dear Hailey, Get Real about Jon Gosselin

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One single mom reaches out to Hailey Glassman with some much-needed advice on dating a certain high-profile dad of eight.

Jon Gosselin and Hailey Glassman

Single Mom Seeking: Dear Hailey,

We recently read about your relationship challenges with Jon Gosselin, and we're writing to you because we care. You say that he's often angry -- and that "he has 'mantrums.'"

"He's like Jekyll and Hyde," you add. "But I still love him."

Oh, Hailey.

We're going to be very honest with you: you're the arm candy rebound girl here. We're guessing that this is probably your first experience dating a man with kids ... not to mention a publicity-seeking guy with all kinds of baggage -- the least of which is his eight little kids!

We understand that you care deeply for Jon and want to be there not only for the vacation frolics, but for the tough times -- and this is why we're going to offer some advice.

Jon is still married.

Yes, he resides separately from Kate. And, he takes every opportunity to publicize that his life with Kate is over.

But being "separated" is confusing and often misunderstood. Is Jon truly legally separated? The legal wranglings about custody, parenting time schedules, finances, and future media projects seem highly contentious and far from resolved. The stress associated with a high-stakes divorce case is simply over the top.

In short, Jon is in limbo right now. He's emotionally numb and incredibly confused.

All this adds up to one inescapable conclusion: Jon is not really emotionally available to you. And he's using you to vent his feelings. We're not surprised that Jon likely tells you that you're his world, and the next minute he's "mantruming." Jon's behavior around his unresolved issues are quite typical of men going through a divorce.

You deserve to be loved -- for real. Although stepping away might be the hardest thing you'll ever do, we encourage you to make the healthy emotional choice for you.

You deserve love, comfort, and support. You've demonstrated that you're capable of giving ... how about finding a man who is available and capable of giving to YOU?



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Shannon November 4, 2009, 10:44 AM

Kate is better looking. My husband went through a rebellion against responsibility, too, difference being he wasn’t stupid enough to do enough to permanently end the relationship. That was over 2 years ago and we are still married and doing well. When this is over Jon will kick himself.

Joe November 4, 2009, 10:57 AM

Who cares about this crap?

downlover November 4, 2009, 1:13 PM

I dont feel sorry for Hailey. Even at 22 your not completely oblivious. This woman is a homewrecker and attempting to make herself out to be something she is not ie: a decent person. Jon is a pig, Kates just plain mean and Hailey is a homewrecker - - - those poor, poor children.

frankie  November 4, 2009, 1:48 PM

Well I think that he has shown his true colors, once a dog always a dog. He dumped his wife and kids for a younger less attractive woman, what makes her think he wont do it to her I just hope she don’t end up pregnant. What a tragedy Poor Hailey will go down in the books as a home wrecking tramp. And well deserved. I HATE homewreckers

snooker November 4, 2009, 2:28 PM

I think Hailey is getting the publicity she wants and craves, but be careful of what you wish for in life! Where can she go from here? She has no talent so she can not stay in “show business”. Chances are once this charade is over she will have a very hard time going back to a normal life. After all, she is only 22. I think we have all seen too many young people destroyed by the fame they so crave.

Julia November 4, 2009, 3:19 PM

Ok Hailey just 2 let you know if he did this to his wife do you actually think he won’t do this to you?????? Once a cheater always a cheater! And you truley know that you’re not ready to take the responsibility with a man who has 8 kids. Your young and pretty, look for someone who is single and that is going to appreciate you. Apparently Jon isn’t! think about it….

katie November 4, 2009, 5:37 PM

They did it for publicity. Period. No need for all the advice and heart felt words.

Anonymous November 5, 2009, 12:06 AM

great letter…very well put, mature, and intelligent… glad to see something other than garbage on the internet :) thanks for that.

mj November 5, 2009, 3:54 AM

A SKANK IS STILL A SKANK,,,
HAILEY IS IN IT FOR THE FAME TOO!
OH,, POOR JON,,, HE TAKES HIS FRUSTRATIONS OUT ON HER,, GIVE ME A BREAK,,HAILEY WANTS HER 15 MINUTES …
THAT INTERVIEW WITH THOSE PHONEY TEARS OF HERS,,,, YEAH SURE,,
SHE IS MAKING MONEY OFF ALL THIS,,
THEY ARE ALL IN IT FOR THE MONEY,,
AT LEAST KATE IS HONEST ABOUT MAKING MONEY.. SHE NEEDS TO SUPPORT THOSE KIDS,, JON SURE ISNT HELPING.

momof4 November 5, 2009, 4:26 AM

you reap what you sow, If Hailey Loves Jon then THAT IS HER CHOICE, if she chooses to STAY with him AGAIN her choice, NO ONE IS FORCING HER TO BE WITH HIM, I think Jon is a very confused man, look what he put up with for 10 years, Kate degraded him on national TV, and its going to take time for Jon to “find himself” again, Hailey is a target for the fact that she is with him, who care what she did in her past, Thru my college years I was no angel, and most of you posting probably are no saints either, but so quick to judge about the past, get over it and let them work out there “issues”

Mary Ellen November 5, 2009, 4:41 AM

OMG Doesn’t anyone see this Hailey for what she is a money chaser! She basically has belittled herself for this guy who still loves his wife. She is just his toy to him right now! Jon needs to go home and work out his life with his children!

Juls November 5, 2009, 4:55 AM

Please Hailey- you are very young and very naive on what is happening- you are truly only the rebound girl right now as Jon goes through this—he needs a support person to run and tell all his problems to-you are currently that person. Take it as a lesson learned and move on….Jon you know that this is true.. we don’t blame you- in your situation this is what you need-but the fun is up.. re-prioritize the things in your life— take a look back at the past and learn from it… you are not the “wounded beaten animal”—you were overloaded very young- but it is what it is.. you have 8 children you can’t “put back”.. so grow up and be a man and realize it’s not all about you!

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