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What can we do in the absence of a mother's love?

Shaniya Davis

Calvin Lowery: Should the Supreme Court reconsider their 1942 decision in Skinner v Oklahoma, which stated that the government does not have the right to prevent repeat offenders/criminals from having children? What has happened in the short period of time since that decision to desensitize our emotions to the fact of a mother killing or harming her children? While prohibiting some people from having kids may be an extreme approach, what can we do to protect children and the public at large?

It was only eight years ago (June 20, 2001) that the nation was stunned to find out that Andrea Yates had drowned her three youngest sons. But then more recently there was Casey Anthony (currently awaiting trial in Florida for killing Caylee Anthony) and Michelle Kehoe (convicted last week of first-degree murder of her 2-year-old son and attempted murder of her 7-year-old son, for slashing both boys' necks). Both situations really make you wonder: where did the mother's love go?

Then there is the latest situation: Antoinette Nicole Davis, a mother from Fayetteville, NC, who has been arrested and charged with human trafficking, felony child abuse, prostitution, filing a false police report, and obstructing a police officer. It is alleged that Davis called authorities and falsely reported her daughter Shaniya missing after allegedly offering her for sexual servitude to her drug supplier. On Monday, this beautiful, innocent, full-of-potential angel was found dead in Fayetteville, NC. She had been born into a life in which, before she turned six, she was physically and mentally abused, pimped out as a prostitute, and killed (most likely) in cold blood. There is no excuse or reason.

I was born and raised in Winston Salem, NC, and I spent a great deal of time throughout my army training in Fayetteville, NC (Fort Bragg, NC), so this last tragedy is truly one that hits close to home. In a city that houses those that are responsible for protecting us globally, nothing was done to protect this 5-year-old domestically. This is not a comment against the military (I love and appreciate our soldiers) -- the Constitution prevents their interference in such situations. This is a comment on the United States: we do not do all that we can to ensure that this situation does not happen, AGAIN!

Oops too late for that. For those that feel that prohibiting certain individuals from procreating is inhumane, remember this - this morning it was announced that Antoinette Davis (Shaniya's mom) is PREGNANT! Are you serious? What, was she not making enough money off of one 5-year-old? Was little Shaniya getting too old to turn tricks for mommy?

Some argue that an individual should have the right to enjoy all enumerated rights under the Constitution. That is until the exercise of those rights do harm to those that are not in a position to protect themselves. This is a sad example of why some argue that the Supreme Court should reverse their finding and prevent certain individuals from having kids.

Others observe that when there is an opportunity to overcome adversity greatness is born. Unfortunately, little Shaniya was prevented form sharing her greatness with the rest of the world.

What causes someone to not love oneself, and to resent their child to the point that these horror stories are the end result? What is it about Americans that allows stories like these to lead news programs? What about these kids? It is no surprise that many kids today are born into situations in which they do not have a chance. There are many who do not believe in abortions, but could these children have been spared? I am not offering any suggestions, just using these thoughts as a basis to ask: what can we do in the absence of a mother's love?

Additionally, if you believe that there are some people (men/women) that should not be allowed to have children, how do you make that determination; how do you make that determination? And, if you feel the government has no right to interfere with a person right to procreate, how do we protect these innocent kids?

No matter what, please pray for our kids.

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13 comments so far | Post a comment now
m November 17, 2009, 2:09 PM

Andrea Yates killed all 5 of her kids, not just 3, she is a sicko

Patricia November 17, 2009, 3:31 PM

This little girl is so pretty and precious. This story broke my heart when I saw it in the news. This is one case where the court should step in and make sure her baby is taken from her at birth and given to a loving family .

Helen B. November 17, 2009, 4:08 PM

There should be mandatory sterilization procedures performed on these women. If they are the monsters they seem to be, they have no business having children to murder or pimp out. How on earth could a woman do that to her own precious child? This is beyond evil and I pray justice for these babies.

angie November 17, 2009, 6:55 PM

It is my opinion that anyone- male or female- that has attempted something or found guilty what have you, those people should be permanently “fixed.” You rape someone- cut off your little perverted member so it never happens again. You are a mother, it need not even get as far as killing before you irreversibly have your tubes tied. An unfit mother or father should be fixed as well to keep from procreating and damaging yet another soul or adding yet more corrupt children and adults. Just my thoughts and hopes…

naila November 17, 2009, 9:03 PM


Westlin November 18, 2009, 8:03 AM

I agree these “loving” mothers deserve to pay for their crimes against their children and their beautiful children never deserved this fate. However, the idea that we can forbid certain people to have children isn’t something that makes sense, even in these cases. Andrea Yates didn’t have prior felony charges BEFORE she did this to her children, neither did Casey Anthony. In the case of Shaniya Davis, the child had been living with her father and it looks as though she had been deeply loved and well cared for. Why was the decision made to let her be with her mother? That is something we don’t know. So, in all these cases, we would have needed to be psychic to know BEFORE the women got pregnant that they would end up killing their child(ren). Do we need to find a way to make every MALE and FEMALE of childbearing age be on long-term birthcontrol of some sort so we don’t take a chance on one of them being a killer? Would this apply to everyone or only those who come from a lower economic background (because you know only poor people do bad things—NOT!). How would we decide who gets to have children? How would we (and who would be the “we”that made the decision anyway?)decide when a person is allowed to get off the birth control and have a child?

Leshemia November 18, 2009, 10:00 AM

There are no words for this kind of cruelty and evil. This was a CHILD for goodness sake. The mother doesn’t even deserve to be called a mother, for a mother nurtures and protects her young. Why couldn’t she offer up her services for her drug tab? The man, again can’t even call him a man, who took this child for payment and used her up is just as sick and should be punished to the fullest. My heart goes out to all those women/couples who CANNOT have children—they pray for kids but you have some sicko like this who doesn’t give a rat’s behind about her precious child. I totally agree that something should be done to prevent this kind of trash from procreating. IN MY OPINION, having children should be a privilege, not a right. Heck, you have to have a license to do everything else, why not have some sort of system in place for procreating?

Ashlee Holland - Momlogic Contributor November 18, 2009, 12:02 PM

If we can take away a human’s life in order to pay for their heinous crimes, why not be able to take away the right to give life for these mother’s crimes, that are just as disgusting…..

Marilyn November 18, 2009, 1:17 PM

Why are mothers being held to a higher standard than fathers? Why is there no discussion of the fathers that kill their children? This is across the board not just a female problem. Women are so much more critical of other women than of men!!

Yvonne! November 18, 2009, 4:36 PM

the saddest thing about this story is that her daddy had custody of her until recently. mom begged to get her back and he agreed that maybe it was time. i know he’s kicking himself right now about letting her go.

Dee November 18, 2009, 9:23 PM

The Adoption and Safe Families Act of 1997 (ASFA) will and should protect the unborn child of Antoinette Davis! There is a “aggravated circumstances” clause that will require a hearing to rule on the existence of aggravated circumstances in determining the reason why the State should not pursue reasonable efforts to have the child remain with the parent. The law which governs the unusual situation where a parent’s past conduct has been so egregious and harmful to the child that a motion to bypass reunification efforts may be filed in Family Court. This step is taken in order to expedite the process of finding another permanent home for the child.

TH November 20, 2009, 10:20 AM

Great article! What is the difference between castrating men and preventing women who kill and “trick off” their babies from having more babies? I believe that there are many people who should not have the ability to be parents 10x over. In situations such as this where a ebautiful innocent lil angel was killed due to her mother facilitating the rape and homocide, there should absolutely be laws against them having more kids. we procreate so our kids can grow up to make a better greater place than there was bfore they arrived. Whats the point of these monsters having kids if they are having them to only inflict harm and sorrow and probably death!?

this story has beyond sicken me and makes me want to fight harder to help innocent lives from this disgusting selfishness of rapists, murders and filth mothers who allow filth like this to carry on.

Vanessa November 24, 2009, 8:33 AM

How do we stop the men who rape little children? We need to concentrate also on castrating these pedophiles and prevent them from having kids which they then go on to use as their personal prostitutes. I think she should get the death penalty but as usual we are now focusing on the women alone and somehow ignoring the grown man who took a five year old into a hotel room to torture and kill her and was still smirking in his mug shot. Let’s not deny that if there were no pedophiles she would not have been able to sell her daughter for sex.

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