A single dad recently contacted us about planning for Thanksgiving. Maybe you can help him out here -- with his, uh, challenge.
Single Mom Seeking: "My ex and I alternate holidays," he explains. "Our parenting time schedule for Thanksgiving begins on Thanksgiving Day at noon.
"Last year, I had a wonderful day planned with my brother's family. But when I picked up the boys -- who are six and seven -- at noon, I discovered that my ex and the rest of her crazy family had already celebrated Thanksgiving with a complete turkey dinner served at 10 AM.
"My ex looked smugly triumphant. And deservedly so. After all, it's an 'achievement' to begin to cook a turkey dinner at 3 AM -- and to strong-arm a bunch of adults to consume a million calories when normal people just want another cup of coffee."
This single dad went on to say that he pretended that everything was okay, and left with the boys, who were sleepy, cranky, and stuffed. And, just to make the situation worse, one of the boys got carsick.
All he kept thinking (but holding back from saying out loud!) was that his ex-wife and her entire family were far crazier than he ever realized.
This single dad is seriously second-guessing how he handled last year's "turkey drama."
So, he's asking you for your advice:
He's now worried that his silence might have set the stage for escalated holiday antics with his ex. Did he handle last year's "turkey drama" the right way?
Or, should he have confronted his ex and her family right then and there?
Oh, and this Thanksgiving? It's her turn to pick up the boys from his home at noon ...
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking" blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about life."|