One single mom is wrestling with this question.
Single Mom Seeking: A distraught single mom recently told us about her ex, who'd contacted her daughter to say that he'd try to celebrate her birthday with her. Of course, her daughter's hopes were raised. Her kid was so hopeful, in fact, that she called her girlfriend and canceled their party plans for the day.
Long story short, this father did NOT show up.
Understandably, this mom is furious. In the midst of any challenge, most of us do our best to put on happy faces in front of our kids. But isn't there a time and place when a mother has a right to show her anger in front of her kids?
"I know I can't change him," this mom says. "The big thing for me is that he constantly disappoints my girls by not keeping his promises. It's a setup to hurt them. And I'm left to pick up the pieces of my girls' broken hearts.
"Of course, I feel terrible for my girls," she adds. "But it hit me today that it's also so unfair to ME."
This mom wonders: "Is it okay to show my girls how angry their father makes me?
"I don't have those super-human capabilities," she concludes. "Any mother who's asked to NOT show her feelings when her children are hurt ... well, it's too much to ask."
We'd love to know:
Is it right for a mother to express these feelings openly to her children? After all, there is a difference between expressing your anger and bad-mouthing your ex, right? Or, should this mom just remain positive in front of her daughter -- and refrain from showing her disappointment?
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking" blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about life."|