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Message to Military Mom Fighting Deployment

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Single Mom Seeking: Dear Spc. Alexis Hutchinson:

Spc. Alexis Hutchinson

When I heard that you'd been arrested on November 6 for skipping your deployment flight to Afghanistan in order to take care of your infant son, I had to find out more. Your story is the kind that pulls on any parent's heart.

How do you find dependable, nurturing -- and affordable -- child care for your baby after life throws you a curve ball like this one?

It's not like you didn't have a plan.

Before your deployment, you'd lined up your mom to take care of your 10-month-old son (According to news reports, his father is not in the picture).

But I watched your mom talk on the Savannah news, and clearly Grandma is overwhelmed. After taking her grandson for two weeks in October -- on top of caring for her own mother and another special needs child -- it was just too much. She sent your son back to you.

Your civilian attorney, Rai Sue Sussman, alleges that one of your superiors at Hunter Army Airfield in Savannah, Ga., told you that you'd have to deploy anyway -- and place your son in foster care.

I'm writing to thank you for bringing this very challenging dilemma to the attention of the mainstream media.

After all, doesn't this highlight a big worry for SO many parents?

When there's a family crisis, how do you find child care that's reliable, loving -- and affordable?

Many parents have faced this need, whether it's because of a job layoff, a death in the family, divorce, you name it. Some parents are fortunate to have close family to take care of their kids. But what if you don't?

Your dilemma highlights a worry that many of us have: If you weren't able to take care of your kids, who would take care of them?

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29 comments so far | Post a comment now
Sabine December 30, 2009, 11:13 AM

I am not in the military, but reading through the comments of some of the single mums who are, it leaves me wondering if not everyone of us should have a care plan like that. It sounds very organized and covers for every eventuality. I think that mother should be discharged from the army as she isn’t reliable enough to serve her country. If her mum is too old to cope, a professional foster mum would be the much better option, what does it matter if they are not family ? The needs of the child should be considered first.
But I am surprised that mums of such small babies are deployed away anyway or would chose to stay in the army to be deployed away. Once mum returns, the baby wont even recognize her. Also, as she is the sole carer as a single mum, is it really fair to that baby to stay in the army and potentially get killed in action ?

Sam January 27, 2010, 1:07 PM

I am in the military as well. I think that it is women like these that give all of us a bad name. You want to join the military and be treated equal to men and then you bring your mommy issues? Guess what, if you didn’t have a plan you should have done the Chapter 8 like others have mentioned. If you want special treatment the military is not for you. Why should someone else have to deploy for you because you decided to breed?

Jennifer W February 8, 2010, 5:01 AM

I don’t believe half of the so-called military members commenting, I definitely call BS on the Marine saying she did the Brave and honorable thing. The corps comes first.

When I was in the Navy there was a saying, “If the Navy wanted you to have a family they would have issued you one in your seabag.” Just because a member has family issues the military is not going to stop and revolve around you. Funny Grandma couldn’t take the little boy but when Spc landed in jail Grandma came and got him.

Just because you can squat and pop out a kid does not mean you’re special or should get special privledges.

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