Sue Carswell: Former "Strong Medicine" star Rosa Blasi now plays a gymnast's mom on ABC Family's "Make It or Break It." I recently caught up with her between takes on her ongoing divorce battle and much more.
Momlogic: How's the custody battle going?
Rosa Blasi: Super fun. I can't think of a better way to hemorrhage a savings account.
ML: What was your most recent court experience like?
RB: You mean when I had to take a PACT (Parents And Children Together) class? It's a required course when you are going through a custody battle. Good times! It was like attending what I imagine a DUI class is like. A lot of "classy" guys, one of which had to be awoken during the class by the instructor. A lot of black, faded concert T-shirts, full-arm tattoos, and the smell of stale beer. I tried bonding with the woman with the fake Chanel bag next to me, and then I remembered that I had a hoodie and no makeup on, and I looked like one of them.
ML: Didn't your ex once take a photo of you jaywalking into court?
RB: He did. I hate it because it cost me $165 in a jaywalking ticket (there was a parking lot directly across from the courthouse. I was running late). The worst part is that my ass looks big in the photo and I thought those were my "good" pants.
ML: Should women ever marry, considering your experience?
RB: No one should consider marrying without a prenup, and a retainer to a private investigator. And pay attention to ATM withdrawals, damn it! Bookies don't take Mastercard.
ML: Was your husband beaming when he discovered you were pregnant with your daughter, Kaia? What did he say?
RB: Beaming? Not really. I had had three early miscarriages (around 5 weeks pregnant), so when I said "I'm pregnant," he said, "Well ... for now." He's always been brutally honest. Emphasis on brutally.
ML: Are football fathers (Rosa's husband played for the Colts and the New York Giants) kind of absent?
RB: Perhaps absentminded. But there are only eight away games in an NFL season, so you can't blame that.
ML: Is there a feeling of bonding with the other football moms, or is the talk about bling?
RB: Alright, alright, if I give away too much, then no one will buy my book that Harper Collins is publishing. Right now, it's called "JOCK ITCH: Memoir of a Retired Jersey Chaser" ... but the title might change to "Friends Don't Let Friends Marry Athletes." Stay tuned and follow me on Twitter for more deets.
ML: When Kaia asks why you don't live with daddy, what do you say?
RB: She hasn't asked yet, thank God. I don't think she remembers us together cuz she was 18 months when we were separated. But today she said, "My Daddy is smart!" and I slipped and said, "I agree! He married me!" and she thought I was joking. "He DID?" she asked. "Why are you not married anymore?" and I said (mid mild panic attack), "Well, some people are great married. And some people are better not married. And that's us!"
ML: Have you cautioned your daughter to not marry a pro athlete?
RB: Not yet. She's three. But I live in fear of that ever happening. Thanks Sue, now I won't sleep tonight.
ML: You tried Match.com as a single mom. How did that go for you?
RB: "It was very time consuming, scrolling through 3,000 (mostly weird) men. But I did meet one great guy, and my boyfriend now WAS on it also. I have no problem with the concept of online dating. Also, I never posted my pictures, I just snooped through it. Very covert.
ML: Although you are in a relationship, does being a single mom have its benefits?
RB: Yes. Alone time on the couch with my other boyfriend -- TiVo. TiVo doesn't judge me when I need to catch up on an Oprah marathon.
ML: What's your mom motto?
RB: I sort of live by the thought that I better expose her to as much creativity as possible. So when she starts improvising songs, or talking to her "sister" (she is an only child), I engage her. I think she has the rest of her life for people to crush her spirit. It's not going to be from me.
|Sue Carswell is a Vanity Fair reporter/researcher. She is a published author, former senior story editor for "Good Morning America," contributing launch editor for "O, The Oprah Magazine," former executive editor for Random House Inc, senior editor at Simon & Schuster, and former correspondent for People magazine.|