Thanksgiving has been a tough holiday for me because I officially became a single mom on this very holiday.
Single Mom Seeking: So, I now have enough Thanksgivings under my belt as a single parent to have some experience with this. Are you a single parent celebrating Thanksgiving? Will you have your kids -- or not?
If you're divorced -- and your ex has the kids -- will you get some much-needed "me time" and spend the day on your own? Maybe you'll watch a string of old movies with popcorn? Or, do some yoga and take a bath?
"I'm not one to advocate volunteering at a soup kitchen, because it's been done to death as a way to avoid your real feelings," Ms. V says. "I say, volunteer in your house."
Here's what Ms. V. means:
"If you don't have the kids, make your house warm and cozy for you. Have some friends over. Put something bubbling on the stove, play music, light scented candles, bake cookies, and build a fire -- yes, a fire in the fireplace."
"So, when your kids get back, they enter this warm, cozy home. THAT is something to be thankful for -- coming back to a real home."
Also, know that you might not be alone for future Thanksgivings. Take single mom My Life Incomplete, who's celebrating Thanksgiving with her boyfriend of 18+months, his family, and her 4-year-old son.
"I love his parents, brothers, their wives and their kids. We are a fun bunch when we all get together! I am really looking forward to spending the holiday with them."
For My Life Incomplete, spending a Thanksgiving alone is still vivid in her mind. If you're alone, she suggests:
"We spend too much time wondering what if, wishing things would have turned out differently, beating ourselves up, trying to understand, etc. Be thankful for this opportunity to start living this new life and for the chance to discover YOU in the months and years to come. Whatever the reason you are single this Thanksgiving, you can be thankful for that."
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking" blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about life."|