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Thanksgiving Guilt Trip, No Passport Required

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We will not be with my parents this Thanksgiving ... and we won't be with my husband's parents, either. The only trip we're taking this holiday season is a guilt trip ... come along for the ride!

thanksgiving without grandparents

Momlogic's Julie: There are definite advantages to NOT spending Thanksgiving with faraway family members. No fights over politics or religion. No stress over spending time at one house, then dashing to another. No Grandma's Jell-O salad to pretend to eat.

But when you spend Thanksgiving away from your family, there is definite guilt that comes along with it. You feel guilty you didn't make the effort to fly cross-country to see them ... because, you know, that's what you're supposed to do. (Or at least that's how the world makes you feel. It's the busiest travel day of the year, after all -- which means they're all making the effort to get somewhere and you're not. Which must mean you don't care as much as they do. Right?)

Then there's the guilt you feel for your children. All those Thanksgiving memories you have of a huge table full of food, surrounded by aunts, grandparents, and cousins? Your kids won't have any of those. And it's your fault.

But after you stop feeling guilty, you start feeling thankful for what you do have. My husband, two kids, and I are going to have a huge Thanksgiving feast, prepared with the help of my 9-year-old son's "Nintendo DS Personal Trainer: Cooking" game. We will tell each other what we're thankful for. We will laugh and sing songs. We will call our faraway friends and family members. And we will even take a mini road trip to somewhere snowy, so we feel more connected to our East Coast roots. On that trip, we'll make memories to last a lifetime.

And that's something to be thankful for.

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4 comments so far | Post a comment now
Just Sayin' November 23, 2009, 11:29 AM

Good for you! It’s time for the guilt to stop and the fun and loving memories to begin.
Enjoy yourselves and have a great time.

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