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Is it possible that the golfer slept with other women because Elin wasn't hitting the big O?

Tiger Woods, Elin Woods

Diana Landen: John Gray thinks Tiger's wife Elin wasn't having enough orgasms. According to Gray, if a man is having regular sex at home, he can't think about sex with another woman. Furthermore, the woman needs to have an orgasm most of the time. This releases pheromones that attract her husband. Faking it won't work.

I'm going to throw something if I hear another theory about why Tiger Woods cheated. Do any of these people know him? Have they ever talked to his wife? I doubt it. In fact, I doubt even Tiger Woods knows why he cheated.

Experts can't even agree about why most men cheat. Maybe Gray is right: They want sex -- more sex, wilder sex, sex with a younger, slimmer woman. Certainly mistresses say the men complain about not getting sex at home. On the other hand, men lie to their mistresses.

According to Gary Neuman's research, it's not usually about sex, it's about feeling unappreciated at home. Some of the men he interviewed said they had affairs with women who were less attractive than their wives.

This fits the common belief that men only have affairs if they're unhappy at home. It's a useful belief if you happen to be the mistress. Who wants to admit that they're hurting innocent people?

Yet in "Beyond Affairs," James Vaughan wrote that his affairs had nothing to do with his wife. He loved her and was happy with the sex at home. She was a great wife and tried to please him any way she could. He just saw the other guys at work having affairs and didn't see what was wrong with it. It was fun. He only stopped because he loved his wife and didn't want to lose her.

Not surprisingly, James Vaughan's wife Peggy believes about a third of the factors causing affairs are societal ones. In fact, Gary Neuman found that men whose friends had affairs were more likely to have affairs.

Then again, some theorists think that it's just men's nature. As far as they're concerned, men are driven to always want sex with someone new. We should all just give up and hand our husbands a big box of condoms. Or maybe a chastity belt.

Here's a radical theory -- different men cheat for different reasons. Sex. Wanting to feel young and attractive again. Boredom with their lives. Because all their friends are doing it. Problems at home. Temptation. Because they want to have their cake and eat it too. Sex addiction.

Maybe the important question is, why do people stay faithful?

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25 comments so far | Post a comment now
Of course December 21, 2009, 4:51 PM

Of course Tiger cheated! His “wife” wasn’t completely elated in the sack!!! It all makes sense now. Jesus, ladies, when will you learn, you’re nothing but a bag for your husband’s delights. Elin should relinquish her children to whichever of Tiger’s mistresses’ had the most fun with Tiger in bed, go back to where she came from and maybe even have a clitordectomy.

Also, if you were raped in a short skirt, you totally were asking for it.

We need more news stories like these, that paint women in the unfavorable light that they deserve. Because nothing a man does is ever wrong and it’s always somehow an inadequacy caused by a woman.

Anonymous December 21, 2009, 4:53 PM


Anon December 21, 2009, 5:08 PM

Keeping your junk in your pants keeps the mistress away.

Brenda December 21, 2009, 5:18 PM

Men cheat because they are WEAK, another woman (more or less attractive than his wife, doesn’t matter) pays them some attention & they turn into slobbery, leg humping puppies. Disgusting!

Charles December 21, 2009, 9:26 PM

We’ve had reports from wearers that Alphaero Pheromones do revive attraction in marriages.

Gail Cooke December 21, 2009, 11:05 PM

Or maybe Tiger Woods is just a pig.

lyz December 23, 2009, 7:45 AM

I love that. The question is not “Why Do They Cheat?” It should be “Why Do We Stay Faithful?” I’d love to read an article about that.

rose December 28, 2009, 7:28 AM

Yes, why do they stay faithful? I want to know, anyone, anyone, anyone?

KEN December 28, 2009, 9:28 AM

The reason why experts can’t agree is because there usually doing it themselves and need advice from other experts, who have no idea either!The logic here is there are no experts, and the word expert is denoted as someone who has studied in the field off, half of the so called experts, are not even married, and a vast percentage of them are still virgins. What right do they have to even voice an opinion not alone condemn another person.

weezy December 29, 2009, 12:41 AM

Hurting your kids, wife, your families, splitting the house, alimony, pets, sinking into poverty, no sex on a regular basis, the unknowns of dating, cooking for yourself, doing your own laundry, religious convictions, moral upbringing, healthy fear of God, and fear of being alone are all reasons married couples stay together.
Keeping the love fresh takes work. Love is a verb…a promise to ‘love’ and be loving, no matter what or how you feel at the time.

kuntsupportservice January 8, 2010, 8:30 PM

headline is true.. do what comes naturally.. ‘cheat’ if you don’t get it at home. why resent your wife.. just get it elsewhere.

chris January 11, 2010, 6:18 PM

I agree, I mean we can’t blame Elin for what Tiger WASN’T doing for her in bed. Cheaters cheat because they are selfish, simple as that. They (tiger) feel more important than those they claim to love (Elin, the children), and feel that their meaningless fun is worth all the pain and suffering it could cause their family. Their self importance stems from the fact that they believe they are smart and can fool the very people they share a life with. This, generally, does not turn out to be the case… ; )

not a mom January 22, 2010, 2:36 PM

I suggest less time posting comments about articles online and more time with your partner having a good time.

Vanessa January 22, 2010, 9:01 PM

So then it’s really “Give Them a Reason to Stay Faithful”

rather than

“Don’t Give Them a Reason to Cheat”

But it is men. You cannot tame scum like Tiger Woods. I say let them cheat. Makes it easier to be done with them and cast them aside and move on with your life.

Tanay Kumar Das January 25, 2010, 11:49 AM

ever since tiger first appeared on tv when he was 3 or 4 with his dad, hes been a star. no one treated him normal, and media was always talking about him, good or bad.

then he gets married. he wants his wife to treat him the same as everyone else does, special, but she dosent. and shes right. he dosent need that all the time, its not good for him. when they’re
married she can see all his flaws, sbe can see him deeper then everyone else sees him, as a professional golfer and a celebrity.

so he goes off looking for someone that treats him special, which is where the other girl comes in. he thinks shes like his wife should be, which is why he cheats on her. of course that is no reason to cheat but thats my theory.

Anonymous January 26, 2010, 8:19 AM

I can not believe this post. Are you crazy or just stupid. IF all men wanted was sex, then they should not have gotten married in the first place. They have a hand, use it. Men who really think this irritate me. Marriage is more than sex.

Pair of losers February 6, 2010, 7:38 AM

I married for love and sex. My wife married for money.

Anonymous February 16, 2010, 5:26 PM

Do the math, it’s not difficult: For every man that cheats there is a willing woman partner.

Anonymous February 16, 2010, 5:28 PM

Do the math: just as many woman cheat as men.

Anonymous March 10, 2010, 5:33 AM

Maybe Tiger wasn’t getting any at home???

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