Is it possible that the golfer slept with other women because Elin wasn't hitting the big O?
Diana Landen: John Gray thinks Tiger's wife Elin wasn't having enough orgasms. According to Gray, if a man is having regular sex at home, he can't think about sex with another woman. Furthermore, the woman needs to have an orgasm most of the time. This releases pheromones that attract her husband. Faking it won't work.
I'm going to throw something if I hear another theory about why Tiger Woods cheated. Do any of these people know him? Have they ever talked to his wife? I doubt it. In fact, I doubt even Tiger Woods knows why he cheated.
Experts can't even agree about why most men cheat. Maybe Gray is right: They want sex -- more sex, wilder sex, sex with a younger, slimmer woman. Certainly mistresses say the men complain about not getting sex at home. On the other hand, men lie to their mistresses.
According to Gary Neuman's research, it's not usually about sex, it's about feeling unappreciated at home. Some of the men he interviewed said they had affairs with women who were less attractive than their wives.
This fits the common belief that men only have affairs if they're unhappy at home. It's a useful belief if you happen to be the mistress. Who wants to admit that they're hurting innocent people?
Yet in "Beyond Affairs," James Vaughan wrote that his affairs had nothing to do with his wife. He loved her and was happy with the sex at home. She was a great wife and tried to please him any way she could. He just saw the other guys at work having affairs and didn't see what was wrong with it. It was fun. He only stopped because he loved his wife and didn't want to lose her.
Not surprisingly, James Vaughan's wife Peggy believes about a third of the factors causing affairs are societal ones. In fact, Gary Neuman found that men whose friends had affairs were more likely to have affairs.
Then again, some theorists think that it's just men's nature. As far as they're concerned, men are driven to always want sex with someone new. We should all just give up and hand our husbands a big box of condoms. Or maybe a chastity belt.
Here's a radical theory -- different men cheat for different reasons. Sex. Wanting to feel young and attractive again. Boredom with their lives. Because all their friends are doing it. Problems at home. Temptation. Because they want to have their cake and eat it too. Sex addiction.
Maybe the important question is, why do people stay faithful?