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One blogger told us of her brother's choice to opt out of Christmas. While she was shocked, most of you agreed that Christmas is Christmas, even without the presents.

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Before we had our son, we were all about buying gifts for our family and each other. Last year and this year, though, it's been all about our son. We're barely making ends meet as it is. Our families have been very understanding. It sucks that you can't be! -- Shannon

If your family is willing to ruin everyone's Christmas because you all cannot let this go, then good for him for taking his family on a cruise and spending HIS money the way HE wants to. I don't really think it is any of your business. -- True Mom

Why is opting out of gift-giving equated with opting out of Christmas? That makes me a little sad. As a non-Christian, I still appreciate the cultural and family celebration and find much meaning in the holiday. Gifts are optional (at least for adults). Enjoy the decorations and time with family. Get together and decorate cookies for one another. Make a new tradition! -- Saum

We decided this year to not buy gifts for all of the nieces and nephews (I have 6 on my side) and put that money toward our own kids. I tried to get my husband's side to do the same, but noooo, they don't want to. I just don't see a reason to buy a gift card for out-of-town relatives and have them buy basically the same gift card for us in return. Why? So we can open something? I actually suggested to my husband that maybe next year we should go on a vacation instead of staying home for Christmas. I see nothing wrong with that. Christmas should only be about sharing time and love with your loved ones. -- Chris

It's just irresponsible to continue to give gifts that nobody wants -- irresponsible to the environment (so much plastic and wrapping paper!), irresponsible to your brother's savings account, and irresponsible to teach this lesson to your children. It sounds like your brother has his head screwed on right; he spent time on a cruise with his family. Sounds wonderful. I'd love to see more people holding back on buying crap, and instead making family time special. Get over yourself. -- Barb

My sister-in-law and her husband have opted out of Christmas the last two years. She said that they didn't want to spend the extra money. It was and is fine with us. How they choose to spend their money is their decision. This was how everyone else felt as well. We do buy a gift for their little girl, but it is because we want to ... that is what makes it a gift. The dictionary states that a gift is "something voluntarily transferred by one person to another without compensation." I hope your family will be able to embrace your brother's decision and not be critical of it so that everyone will have a wonderful Christmas. -- Anonymous

Christmas is not about gift-giving! It is about spending time together. My husband and I love to watch our children open presents and get excited! It is not all about you and what gift someone got you! I wish we could opt out of giving gifts to the adults in our family. -- Renee

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Lynn December 7, 2009, 7:01 PM

The holidays are stressful for a lot of people but they don’t have to be. Choose comfort & joy :>).

lbug December 7, 2009, 7:37 PM

The holidays are meant to be spent with family and watching the children’s faces light up while opening their presents.

joujou December 10, 2009, 1:59 PM

i am choosing not to celebrate oldest son was murdered in 2008.our christmas’ will never be the same without him.i have two other sons and they feel the same.its not the same without him.memories too painful

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