When I first read about this new trend of women celebrating their divorces -- with cakes! -- I thought the idea was hilarious.
Single Mom Seeking: Check out my favorite cake -- via the Daily Mail -- in which a woman is pushing her ex OFF the cake. Ha.
When I first heard about these break-up cakes, it seemed like the most positive, light-hearted way to say goodbye to your pain and celebrate your new journey with friends.
But that's when Dr. Leah Klungness, aka The Sanity Fairy, chimed in about the reality of these "celebrations" if you have kids.
Sure, having a break up party with an outrageous cake might be a great way to celebrate the end of your relationship, she told me. Especially if the legal wranglings were seemingly endless, this could be a symbolic way to move on.
However, Dr. Leah warns:
"If you feel that a "divorce party" is something you want, make sure that your kids are NOT invited."
How true: it might be all light for you, but your kids would see things in an entirely different way. Surely, they would be hurt and confused by your celebration of an event that has been devastating to them.
"That why you need to seriously consider your kids' feelings if you're planning such a party," Dr. Leah adds.
We're sure that you have something to say about this:
If you're in the middle of a divorce, have you considered baking a cake to celebrate?
If you've gone through a divorce and could turn the clocks back, would you have thrown a "break up party" like this?
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking" blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about life."|