I'm one of my daughters' top friends. I have proof.
Yes, I was nervous when I sent them my friend requests. Would they accept it, or ignore me? But then I got that e-mail message letting me know that each one had confirmed me, and I had evidence that they like me -- they really like me -- or at least evidence that they understand the consequences of not accepting their mother's friend request!
Here are some of the benefits of being friends with my girls on Facebook:
1) I can tell when they're signed on. And if they should be doing homework instead, I can chat with them just like a real girlfriend would ... and tell them to sign off or else. And I can do this all without having to interrupt my own session of Farmville.
2) I have gained valuable information as to the character of some of their school friends, such as: Some of them like to swear. Some of them are just as horrid at spelling as my daughter. Some of them don't know how to spell certain swear words. And virtually all of them abandoned poor Edward as soon as they got an eyeful of Jacob's chest.
3) If they spend an evening with a friend, I don't need to ask what they did. I can just casually look through the 207 photos they posted the next day.
4) I can find out if my tween is in a relationship -- and promptly put an end to it!
Obviously, being a friend on Facebook is no substitute for the real thing. But it can provide insight to my children that I might never have experienced otherwise. When I visit their pages on Facebook, I can see a record of spontaneous interaction with friends, and thus a more accurate picture of what they're like when I'm not around. I can get a true sense of what it would be like to actually be one of their girlfriends.
And what has been the most valuable insight so far?
That I'm too old to be friends with 14- and 11-year-olds anywhere other than on Facebook.
|Beth Falkenstein was a sitcom writer and freelance contributor to "Self," "Redbook," and "YM" magazines before taking a full time job in her kitchen. She loves her new bosses (ages 13 and 10), and is grateful that they approve of inter-office romance, because Beth thinks her co-worker (Jim, age 45) is really hot.|