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Is Tiger the First Man to Cheat?

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Why are we so quick to condemn Tiger? It's not like people watch him on TV for countless hours because we love who he is as a husband.

Tiger Woods, Michael Jordan, Eliot Spitzer, Kobe Bryant

Calvin Lowery: Let's get this clear, it has been reported that 30 to 60 percent of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage (see, Buss and Shackelford for review of this research. More specifically, 50 percent of all men will cheat at some point in their lives.

So, why are we so surprised that an athlete was unfaithful to his spouse? Let's see: Michael Jordan, Magic Johnson and Steve McNair are just a few on the long list of athlete cheaters. But, it is not only black athletes that are caught in this web of infidelity. What about certain figures such as: Bill Clinton, John McCain, and Eliot Spitzer? This is not a new thing -- back to the 1800s, there were claims that Thomas Jefferson was getting some on the side. As we speak, Gov. Mark Sanford's wife has filed for divorce after her husband confessed his love for a woman from Argentina.

Is this something new? Or is it something old? No, this is life. Let's see, we do not credit or pay any of the aforementioned individuals for being truthful husbands. Said another way, these individuals are famous, powerful and successful individuals -- not for how they treat those at home but because of what they achieve on the course, or on the court or in the political arena.

So, can we all get off of our high thrones of righteousness (Jesper Parnevik) and remember? All of these individuals contributed a great deal to our society. Their shortcomings (or transgressions) do not erase those accomplishments. This is in no way a rise to defend Tiger, or ANY person who engages in infidelity. But, it is a call for the public to observe that there are serious issues in the American family, and unfortunately the fact that a man cheats is not the big one. The fact that many mothers are under the age of 18 is a serious one. The fact that many households only have one parent is a serious one. The fact that too many of our children do not have adequate food or health care is another serious one.

To Tiger's wife and kids, I am sorry that the media will not provide you with the time and privacy to deal with this matter. I have seen firsthand what an issue like this can do to a family, and having the world follow a play-by-play has to make it 100 times more difficult.

And for those who want to keep the discussion going by claiming that Tiger's career is over, I have one name -- Kobe Bryant. Since he admitted that he was unfaithful and successfully fought a rape charge, Kobe Bryant is at the top of the league. Advertisers that bailed on him are seriously regretting that decision. Why? Because true fans of the game could care less about what athletes do in the privacy of their homes. I watch Tiger because he is an amazing golfer, not because he has proclaimed himself to be the best husband in the world.

What can we do? What some man who hits a golf ball for a living decides to do behind closed doors is not my concern.

Tiger, you did not mess up when you cheated on your wife, you messed up when you were born human. Everyone makes mistakes -- and unfortunately, everyone will be judged for those "transgressions."

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Pat Bucher December 15, 2009, 9:09 AM

Been cheated on, lost both parents and brother in a car accident, separated from from family and lived in foster homes. Of all this, I can honestly tell you, my ex’s infidelity was the worst pain I ever experienced. There is no excuse for cheating! If your not happy, or just chose to not be faithful, then get out of the marriage! It’s very sad to me, I think many people today only think about themselves and their own immediate gratification.
Tiger Woods new nick name…Cheetah!
Pat Bucher
Bowling Green, Ohio

Beckie December 15, 2009, 1:37 PM

Please remember that everyone makes choices that will sometimes cost us a lot more than one thinks. Yet everyone makes them. They don’t have to just cheating on the other. So how can we tell what the other is really feeling? I think we need to let this go and move on to other things that will help other people be happy healthy and go forward. Let Tiger learn from his mistakes just like the rest of the world, sportsman or not. Yes he is the spot light, yet he is still a person! Thanks.

Anna December 15, 2009, 2:28 PM

Oh please, it might be a mistake if you do it once. not over and over and over. He knew exactly what he was doing. and it was wrong!

Michael Keeneth December 16, 2009, 1:24 AM

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toeei clark December 16, 2009, 9:19 AM

i think you people are just making alright for every men in the world to cheat on his not saying that only men cheat,i know wives cheat also.but the numbers are much my eyes,tiger didnt just make one sounds to me that he premeditated his out come.theres not just 1 women,there are a bunch of women.its sounds to me that he had a women in every state and he probley never thought he would get caught.i dont know why,but i think 8 outof every 10 men will cheat more then one time in his life.the difference between men and women are as follows,women lives by the thoughts in her mind and soul and men live by the thoughts that come out of there pants.its always been that way and it always will be.thanks

Darlene December 22, 2009, 1:50 AM

All this about Tiger, I’m getting tired of hearing. It’s all about who gets the juiciest story, all about photographers, and news reporters.

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