So, I suspect I'm the first guy who has heard from his wife how busy she is, how much she does, how tired she is, how underappreciated she is, and how I do nothing.
Bruce Sallan: Well, it's true. I actually do nothing.
I don't take care of the boys, pay for our lives, walk our three dogs, pay the bills, clean up after myself and others in the kitchen, occasionally cook, often BBQ, do the Costco runs, put gas in my wife's car, tell her how much I love her, and how amazing her cooking is. Nah, I do none of that stuff.
BUT, she cleans, cleans, and cleans. Our house is really clean. She works, has a horrible commute, and loves her two stepsons more than their biological mom, who is no longer even in their lives. She comes home after a long drive and frustrating day at work (she's a realtor -- need I say more?) and cooks us a wonderful meal.
Did I mention she's going through menopause? Do I need to say anything else?
Okay, so the question is how do I lighten her load? I have to admit -- I just don't care about the clean, clean, clean side of her personality and anal-ness about it. But, then again, she doesn't really care for my burping and farting, and general slovenliness.
I actually think we're a perfect match and I thank G*d for my good fortune in meeting her, having her actually like and eventually marry me, and love my boys so much, but what do I know? I'm just a guy.
|Bruce Sallan gave up his showbiz career a decade ago to raise his two boys, full-time, now 13 and 16. His internationally syndicated column, A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW, is his take on the challenges of parenthood and male/female issues, both as a single dad and now, newly remarried, in a blended family. Join Bruce's A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW fan page at Facebook. To contact Bruce, visit his new website brucesallan.com.|