Why does the general rule that adults are not supposed to touch other people's children somehow not apply to school photographers?
Christina Coleman: The night before my daughter Brynn's school picture day, I put curlers in her hair. She complained about having to sit under the dryer, but I assured her it would be worth it the next day when she saw how beautiful her curls were. And she agreed. She was VERY excited about her beautiful hair for picture day, and it made the dryer-curlers ordeal worth it.
When I returned home from work the day of picture day, Brynn came to me and was very upset, and was apologizing to me about her hair. She told me that the photographers (a male and a female) both told her that they "had to" brush her hair, and she did not want them to, but they told her she "had to," and proceeded to brush out all of her curls.
I was concerned when I heard this, and I asked quite specifically, "Did they tell you that you 'had to,' even when you said you didn't want to?" and she said, "Yes, they said I 'had to.'"
First, nobody, and I mean NOBODY, should be touching my child at all, much less over her objections.
Second, it is improper and irresponsible for a non-teacher, non-police/fireman, non-parent to be telling a child, especially a first-grader, that they "have to" do what they say. As parents, we teach our children not to talk to strangers, and that they can trust teachers, and policeman, and certain relatives, and clergy, etc., but try to make sure they understand the importance of knowing who to trust and obey. Children who trust and obey just anybody are the children who get into cars with strangers, get molested, and other dangers, and we teach our children NOT to trust and obey just anybody. So for strangers, photographers, to tell my child that she must do what they say, and to make her feel powerless to disobey, completely undermines our teachings and puts her in danger.
Third, Brynn was SO excited about her beautiful hair, and the conduct of the photographers completely made her dryer-curlers ordeal pointless. While the pictures turned out okay, Brynn, my husband, and I were all disappointed about how they turned out, and how anyone could think that the resulting hairstyle that the photographers came up with was better than the one she arrived to school with is beyond me.
I formally complained to the school photographer about the assault on Brynn's curls. The photographer claimed "fixing" Brynn's hair was necessary because it was covering one of her eyes, but apologized and agreed to do a re-shoot. They also promised they will not touch her, and if her hair needs to be swept out of her face, they said she can do it herself.
I should say so! We may have boing-boing curls in our photographic future!
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