One expert says it's a BAD idea.
When we heard about the 15-year-old teen girl who died of alcohol poisoning at a sleepover over the weekend, we wondered: How are parents supposed to know what goes on behind closed doors, and keep our kids safe? Is it ever a good idea to put a spy cam in your teen's room?
We asked teen expert Vanessa Van Petten, author of You're Grounded: A Parenting Book from the Kid's Perspective, for her thoughts on the matter. Here's what she had to say:
• Always think about how it will affect your relationship. If your teen finds out you are spying and they are NOT doing anything bad, it could equal the end of the relationship as you know it.
• Think about what will happen if you catch them doing something wrong, and then they find out how. They can be punished, but they will lose a huge amount of trust in you.
• The threat of a camera can have way more benefit than an actual one. Say, "A couple of the parents in our group of friends have considered cameras in the rooms of our house. I don't want to do it, but I know it is happening. I trust you ... is there anything else I should know?" This builds trust, because you are being upfront and honest. Just the threat of a spy cam possibly being installed will curb a lot of bad behavior.