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Dr. Wendy Walsh: The latest reports on the Tiger Woods saga/drama are that wife, Elin, has just returned from visiting with her share-the-wealth hubby in sex rehab. And now she has decided NOT to file for divorce. While America is screaming, "TAKE THE MONEY, ELIN!," I would like to take this opportunity to personally congratulate her. It is a brave woman who attempts to save her marriage and her family in this situation. Not only were his transgressions particularly damaging and hurtful, but she also has enormous cultural pressure to leave. We now seem to live in a culture that prefers quick, profitable divorces over the bittersweet emotional work of salvaging a marriage. Somehow, a virtuous few think the only sane route for her is to pack up and cash the check.
But before you think I am the champion of weak women who are too afraid to march out as single mothers, please allow me to remind you of two small facts -- the kids. I don't have to remind you that children do better emotionally, academically, and financially within the circle of an intact, two-parent household. While we single mothers are doing our best -- and indeed, there are plenty of involved divorced fathers -- the statistics do not favor them. According to the Strengthening Families Act of 2003, "Nearly 24 million children in the United States, or 34 percent of all such children, live apart from their biological father. Forty percent of children who live in households without a father have not seen their father in at least one year, and 50 percent of such children have never visited their father's home."
Last night I saw a public service announcement by our president, Barack Obama, encouraging men to be better fathers, to devote the time necessary to help kids thrive. Is this where we have come? When a TV commercial is needed to get men to pay attention to their kids???
Finally, should you be concerned that a negative message might be sent to the children by welcoming back a philanderer -- a platinum-level lothario, at that -- please be assured that the children are quite young, and their primary narcissism will protect them from knowing about or having to understand this mess. The biggest lesson the kids may get from all this? That people can change, that forgiveness is necessary in love relationships, and that Daddy loves them. Most of all, keeping Daddy at home is the biggest gift of their mother's love. Elin, on behalf of your vulnerable angels, thank you for taking a big step toward repair. May the force be with you!
|Dr. Wendy Walsh holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and her area of interest is Attachment Theory, a psychological, evolutionary and ethological theory that provides a descriptive and explanatory framework for understanding interpersonal relationships between human beings. As a psychological assistant registered with the California Board of Psychology, Dr. Walsh has treated individuals, couples and families for a variety of mental health concerns including personality disorders, anger management, eating and substance disorders, and depression. Connect with Dr. Walsh on Facebook.|