twitter facebook stumble upon rss

Infertility Takes a Huge Toll

sign up for the momlogic newsletter Tweet This
New study sheds light on what couples go through during IVF.
pregnancy test

Ronda Kaysen: Couples who struggle to get pregnant find their friendships with others strained, their self-esteem battered, and their relationships under stress, according to a recent survey.

More than 70 percent of women reported in a survey funded by Schering-Plough and Merck & Co. that infertility made them feel flawed, while half of men said they felt inadequate. More than half of couples said they hid their feelings from their partners, and 60 percent of couples said they got tired of hearing friends and family ask them how things were going.

"Couples undergoing fertility treatment clearly experience a rollercoaster of emotions," Alice D. Domar, Ph.D., executive director of the Domar Center for Mind/Body Health, said in a statement. "The desire to start a family is a strong one, and failing to achieve that can impact everything from the marital relationship to interactions with future grandparents and friends who become pregnant."

Infertility catches most people by surprise. However, it affects a large swath of the population -- about one in eight couples.

Couples report that they argue more and experience more tension in their relationship, and that trying to get pregnant has taken its toll on their sex life, making what was once a fun activity into an anxious process. However, the majority of couples say that despite the strife, their relationship is closer than it was before they experienced infertility. For example, 84 percent of women say their husbands make doctors appointments for them or accompany them to the visits, and 86 percent say their husbands help them with fertility drug injections.

It's the relationships with everyone else that seem to be the biggest problem. Many couples complained about unsolicited advice from friends and family about how to get pregnant. The biggest bit of unwanted advice from friends: stop worrying about it.

"Couples undergoing fertility treatment often turn inward and stop confiding in family and friends because of the pain involved in talking about their struggle to conceive," Barbara Collura, executive director of RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association, said. "It's important for couples to know that extensive resources exist to support them throughout the process."

The best thing friends and family members can do for a couple trying to conceive? Be quiet and listen.

Ronda Kaysen: Couples who struggle to get pregnant find their friendships with others strained, their self-esteem battered, and their relationships under stress, according to a recent survey.

next: MY Version of Going Green
35 comments so far | Post a comment now
Payday Loans No Credit Check March 3, 2011, 1:14 PM

Very interesting I want to learn more. I will make sure to bookmark this page! d^^

Payday Loans No Credit Check March 4, 2011, 10:15 AM

So much ussful information!

Payday Loans No Credit Check March 6, 2011, 8:01 PM

I love the post you put up. Incredible, tons of awesome information.^.^b I will check back here alot!

Payday Loans No Credit Check March 9, 2011, 12:55 PM

Very interesting post! =] I will visit often. Hope you put up new content soon!! ^.^

Watch Chelsea Handler Sex Tape March 10, 2011, 12:57 PM

You made an awesome post!!! Keep on posting!! I am going to check back later!!!

Payday Loans No Credit Check March 11, 2011, 2:21 PM

wow, Im impressed you found that! I will bookmark this site!

Teodoro Doffing March 18, 2011, 12:33 PM

I love the post you put up.

Best Way to Lose Weight March 20, 2011, 9:14 PM

I love the post you put up.

Alveo March 22, 2011, 2:55 AM

I just sent this post to a bunch of my friends as I agree with most of what you’re saying here and the way you’ve presented it is awesome.

Alveo March 22, 2011, 10:50 AM

Should I buy steel golf clubs or graphite ?

Lashonda Amidon March 25, 2011, 10:26 AM

Nice website, love your background and how you input your content :) Agreed with everything you’re talking about, sounds very exciting haha.

10 people can buy lincoln  April 3, 2011, 3:07 AM

Thank You For This Post, was added to my bookmarks.

The MericleDiet April 3, 2011, 2:00 PM

I am happy to come across so loads of useful information at this time into the post, we require enlarge new methods inside this regard, thanks for sharing

government auctions Lander  April 6, 2011, 2:08 AM

Very informative post. Thanks for taking the time to share your view with us.

I love the writing relevancy of your website and it will a attractive decent work of presenting the info.

Back to top >>