Ever been so angry at your kid's school principal that you felt like telling them off? This mom did, and now she's being charged with disorderly conduct.

When Cindy Schwalb heard from her 13-year-old daughter that boys had pulled down her  sweatpants in front of other students, she was livid. When the principal at Hasbrouck Heights Middle School didn't address the issue at a bullying seminar, she became furious. So angry, in fact, that she cursed out the principal in the hallway. She now faces charges of disorderly conduct.

Momlogic: First of all, what is "pantsing"?

Cindy: From what I learned, "pantsing" started happening in my daughter's middle school in October 2008. It's when a child runs up and drops another child's pants to the floor. I was not aware of it at first because I had breast cancer and was going through chemo at the time, so my daughter never came home and mentioned it to me. I guess the kids viewed it as a common thing that kept happening. I was later told it happened often in the boys' and girls' locker rooms before and after gym class. It was done in front of teachers and they didn't stop it, so the kids thought it was okay. I later learned some boys' moms did complain because it turned into harassment. It was the athletic boys doing it to the less athletic boys. I feel if any teacher saw this, he or she should have blown a whistle and sat the kids down to tell them you should never touch another kid's pants.

Momlogic: How and when did you learn about your 13-year-old daughter's incident at school?

Cindy: Prior to my daughter's incident, I had no knowledge this was going on. On May 16, 2009, I received a phone call from my daughter's guidance counselor. My daughter was in her office, and she was very upset. The counselor sounded hesitant and said they were having a problem in school with "pantsing." She said it had been happening with the boys, but it never happened with a girl until that day with my daughter. My daughter is not one to show her body parts, she's conservative in that way, so I knew this wouldn't be good. I was told it was during gym class when it was full of students. I called my husband to meet me at the school because I figured my daughter would be upset and needed us both.

When I arrived at the school, I was told my daughter had been in gym class when the boy, who was talking to his football buddies, crawled across the floor, right behind her. She was talking to her girlfriends when all of a sudden, WHAM ... down went the pants. She screamed and went into a ball because she had no pants on. The girls encircled her, pulled her pants up, and helped her out of the gym.

Since this seemed to be an ongoing problem in the school, I asked the guidance counselor if the principal was going to sit the boys down and speak with them. The boy who did this was suspended for one day, but that seemed to be the end of it. I went in to speak with the principal. He never apologized to my daughter about this incident, and when I asked if the boys would be reprimanded, he said he couldn't name names and he rudely dismissed my concerns. My husband also went in to speak with him and got nowhere. I left with my daughter, and my husband and I ended up at the Board of Education to address this.

I was getting nowhere with the school district. Finally, at 9 PM that night, the superintendent called and said he'd deal with this properly. He agreed this behavior should not be tolerated. He said he would talk to the kids, but we also felt there should be training across the board with the school teachers and faculty because we later learned other moms were complaining about this, but nothing was being done. The school didn't seem to care that the athletic boys were picking on the less athletic boys.

My husband and I went to meet with the superintendent. While we were talking to him, he asked me if my daughter was wearing a thong. She's 13! I was shocked he asked me that. He says he asked me that because he needed to know what body parts were showing, but I felt the question was inappropriate. I don't see what that question was all about, and no, she wasn't wearing a thong. The issue wasn't about her body parts; it should have been about why the teachers allowed this sexual harassment to continue.

Momlogic: After getting nowhere, what did you do next?

Cindy: I took my story to the county, and they agreed to give three workshops to the teachers, students, and parents. The parent workshop was supposed to be at back-to-school night. Meanwhile, the gym teachers (where the incident happened) weren't on the list for the workshop, the parents weren't given notice about the workshop, and I felt this issue was again being ignored. At back-to-school night, a woman got up and said sexual harassment happens in the halls because there aren't enough teachers to monitor all the students, and if it happened, students should report it. Nothing was ever mentioned about "pantsing"! I thought the workshop was going to address the situation, make parents aware of what was happening, and be somewhat educational. I was shocked and upset. I said to the principal, "You're useless! My daughter was assaulted, and this is what you call a workshop? I spent 3 months on the phone with the county and you did nothing to help my family. You're a useless f***ing a**hole!"

I was crying, and I walked out on my own accord. The principal never said anything to me, and it was like I wasn't being heard for six months. I went home and cried for three days. A few days later, I received a letter in the mail saying I was banned from the school, and if there was further misconduct on my part, he would have to take this further. A week later, I received a ticket in the mail charging me with disorderly conduct. I am facing as much as a $1,000 fine and up to 90 days in jail.

Yesterday, on January 13th, I went to court with my attorney and entered a not-guilty plea. I did curse at him, but it wasn't disorderly conduct. I said what I had to say, and then I left. That night, there was a police officer standing right there who is a student's father, and who also serves on the board of education. If I was disorderly, why didn't he escort me out?

Momlogic: How did you explain this to your daughter?

Cindy: My 13-year-old daughter knew something was wrong when I got home that night because she saw I was crying. She knew I felt the school gave the wrong message to the boys. The boy should have been punished, but I feel he's only 50% to blame -- the school didn't protect her, and they should be accountable too. That night, I sat her down and I told her I wasn't proud of what I did, I was very upset, and they weren't taking her feelings seriously. I told her what I did, and I told her it was wrong and that I got emotional. She went back to school and she's moving on from this, but she wants me to get justice. She understands something is very wrong in the school system.

Momlogic: Has this had an impact on your daughter?

Cindy: A week after the incident, my daughter started getting stomach pains. I brought her to the doctor and he could tell something happened to her emotionally. She was having anxiety, a nervous stomach. She was put on medication and is still dealing with some emotional issues stemming from this.

Momlogic: What is your message to other moms?

Cindy: My message is that when something like this happens to your child, a lot of school systems will do whatever they can to make it go away. They will put you through the test of time and put you through a lot. My message is don't give up. If you feel you're right and something is terribly wrong, you can't let them intimidate you. I went through all the proper channels; my only mistake was when Mama Bear came out and I got upset and it was the last straw. In hindsight, it's helped the situation because it actually brought the issue out in the school, community, and media, so now everyone knows what's been going on.

Read a copy of the police complaint. (Warning: Complaint contains profanity.)