I have two kids and I'm a virgin.
Lenore Moritz: Not the "immaculate conception" kind of virgin, I'm a virgin when it comes to vacations and kids, as in: I've never gone on one without my kids. My oldest is nearing four and my husband and I have not had even one night away since his birth (that's 1,460 days!) Indeed, I'm a "kid-less vacation" virgin, but all that is about to change, and I'm equal parts nervous and excited. No, that's not true -- I'm definitely more excited than nervous and I don't even feel guilty about that ... I think that's a good sign.
I'm no "helicopter" parent, but I do have a (very) healthy cautious side. For a split second the other day, I wondered if (while I'm away) my son could wear his bike helmet walking up and down the concrete stairs in our house, but then I figured it would just make him feel more unbalanced.
A major milestone in my life (turning a big, bodacious age) has led to this getaway for me and my husband. I'm clearly ready for it, as indicated by the fact that my husband and I were giddy to have even a few minutes alone together ... in a grocery store. That's just ridiculous.
The two biggest things on my mind regarding the kids while we're away are:
1) having someone else manage my younger son on the aforementioned concrete stairs (concrete being an unforgiving surface); and,
2) someone else driving my kids in a car.
Legitimate concerns, but things I'll have to trust all will go well. I may ask my Catholic mother-in-law to say a few extra rosaries for the safety of her Jewish grandsons (and for good measure, to also pray for no snowstorms...oh, and safe air travel for us.)
It is only 3 1/2 days, so I'm trying to keep a good perspective on how it will go. Eating, for example -- if they live on crackers and noodles for a few days, they'll still find the energy to fight over who gets to ride the trike. And if they watch a few extra tv shows while we're gone, I'm pretty sure they'll still ace preschool.
I think this is going to play out like a job interview: anxious until you arrive, then you ease into it and enjoy the conversation. When I wake up that first morning away, snuggled up next to my husband, and realize that it's really not an upside down 6 on the alarm clock, I'll be thrilled to have de-flowered my vacation virgin status.
|Lenore Moritz is the curator/editor of Mom Culture, a culture fix for your inner grown up. Each Friday, a new artist interview and their art will inspire and energize you. High culture, pop culture and everything in between is covered.|