I've been holding out on my wife in the (ahem) intimacy department.
Bruce Sallan: Like Elvis* and Aretha, with their TCB's (Taking Care of Business), I've been laying down on the job. That may have been a poor choice of words given the specific confession, since it's about taking care of my wife in the intimacy department. See, I've become like a woman (okay -- kill me for that comment) in that I'm letting my "hurt feelings" affect me too much.
We have finally agreed that we're the most stubborn couple on the planet with the possible exception of the Clintons. We know what our buttons are; we know our patterns (bad ones, that is), and our therapist has given us the tools to improve our interactions.
Instead, we hold onto all our toys and won't share. We act like little kids -- at least I'll confess that I do on more than one occasion. I'll let my wife speak for herself if she chooses to comment. In that regard (fyi) I NEVER post a blog like this without running it by her first. I'm not that crazy!
The glue that holds a couple together, among other things, is making love, expressing it physically, and I've gotten too sensitive and too lazy about TCB. I love my wife, I'm attracted to her, but I've allowed my feelings to dictate my actions way too much. I vow here and now to improve my part in the equation, though I wouldn't fully count on it as. After all, I'm just a guy.
*As an unrepentant Elvis fan, I will share that he had special pendants made with the initial TCB which he gave to the original "posse," the original "entourage" -- his.
|Bruce Sallan gave up his showbiz career a decade ago to raise his two boys, full-time, now 13 and 16. His internationally syndicated column, A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW, is his take on the challenges of parenthood and male/female issues, both as a single dad and now, newly remarried, in a blended family. Join Bruce's A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW fan page at Facebook and follow him on Twitter. To contact Bruce, visit his new website brucesallan.com.|