Though I was initially excited to go to my first Mommy and Me class, I found it to be judgmental and totally unsupportive.
Notes From A New Mom: When my baby was just a few weeks old, I decided it might be good to get into a class where I could talk about my baby's sleep habits, the additional stress my husband and I were feeling with the new baby and the toll it was taking on our relationship. I wanted to be part of a group of moms that, like me, had worries about never feeling sexy again, and about going back to work. At the very least, I wanted to know that I wasn't alone in living in my PJs with uncombed greasy hair and zit cream from the night before.
No such luck.
In the first class, we went around the room introducing ourselves and shared what brought us to the group. Up first, I figured I might as well be honest -- so I told the mom strangers that my husband and I weren't getting along, the baby wasn't sleeping, I'd had to stop breastfeeding and that I felt like the most unsexy person ever. One mom interrupted and said, "You're not breastfeeding anymore? Ugh. WHY?" Another then said, "You're going back to work? Already?" Yet another chimed in, laughing, "I hope you have childcare for your kid, 'cause you're not going to get in a day-care around here, they're full!"
Crap. Either I am a terrible mother, or I'm in the wrong class.
Needless to say, no one else was really honest. It's hard for me to believe you're just in a class because you're "bored at home," or because you were just "looking for a social hour" or "something fun to do" -- which is what most of them said. It's hard to believe you've somehow squeezed into your skinny jeans again and your baby is happily sucking on your boob and sleeping through the night at just a few weeks old. It's hard to hear that you and your husband have date-night once a week and that you have a night nurse watching over your baby so you can sleep. And it's particularly annoying to be judged for my flaws, of which I humbly admit I have many. Whatever. I'm out of here.
Mommy and Me is not for me. Clearly. Was it for you?