When I asked a few single-mom bloggers if they were going to say "No" to Valentine's Day, I'd expected to get a good dose of cynicism.
"I think love is who we are -- and we should celebrate that every moment of every day!"
So, this time around -- when I called these same women to touch base about their Valentine's mood -- I was sure some bitterness would come through.
But no. Listen in:
"In the last year, I've lost 35 lbs, quit smoking and started paying off divorce-related bills," says Julie from 47 and Starting Over. "Now I am about to turn 49 and I feel fabulous about that! So I will celebrate this crazy little Hallmark holiday with some white wine, dark chocolate and candles ... and be thankful to be starting the last year of my 40s in such a better place in my life!"
And then there's Jessica, a.k.a. Sassafrass, who put it all out there:
"This year, I will be sweetly and quietly completely single. OK, I won't be that quiet. Although right now I am challenged to just 'be' in my singleness, I am actively seeking ways to delight in the quiet time to make my way through a queue full of Netflix movies and seasons of shows I missed when I was out with cute boys who kept me out way too late."
And her plans for today?
"I will be spoiled on Valentine's Day. By myself, for myself. Nothing lavish. Nothing budget-blowing. Nothing life-changing. Nothing practical. Just something that will remind me that I deserve to be delighted. I'm thinking about buying and wearing a pair of saucy red knickers that no one else really needs to know about to give me a thrill. Or maybe a big old gaudy cocktail ring to flash when I'm tapping away at my laptop, working late at night. Perhaps a new belly ring or lipstick or ridiculously small and adorable clutch purse. Of course, I always accept shoes from myself with great appreciation and bliss."
So, will you spoil yourself on Valentine's Day? Let's hear how!
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking," blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about life."|