What smug couples can teach us about marriage.
We love to go to Hawaii. We watch "True Blood." And the worst: We're pregnant.
Chances are, you know one couple that over-abuses pronouns like "We" instead of saying "I." But could these happy, sappy lovebirds be onto something? New research conducted at UC Berkeley says couples that frequently refer to themselves as "We" resolve conflict more successfully than those who don't. The thinking is that these twosomes are constantly reminding each other that they're a unit, which generates more positive feelings, resulting in a happier and healthier relationship.
"Individuality is a deeply ingrained value in American society, but, at least in the realm of marriage, being part of a 'we' is well worth giving up a bit of 'me,'" said UC Berkeley psychology professor Robert Levenson, a co-author of the study published in the journal Psychology and Aging.
Adds study co-author Benjamin Seider, a graduate student in psychology at UC Berkeley: "The use of 'we' language is a natural outgrowth of a sense of partnership, of being on the same team, and confidence in being able to face problems together."
On the flipside, couples who used words like "You" and "I" were less close, more stressed out, and unhappier in general.
We want to know what you think -- does this verbal habit make your skin crawl, or will these couples make it to their golden years?