If you think your husband is cheating on you, here's one good way to find out for sure. I just wish I had thought of it myself.
Flying Solo with Two Carry-Ons: I was out shopping with a very dear friend, "Carrie." As we were searching through the racks of clothes, she asked me if I would do her favor. "Of course," I said. She then asked me to help her create a fake Facebook account. She explained that she wanted to know once and for all if her husband would cheat on her. She said she had suspected infidelity for a while -- ever since she found out that her husband had befriended several young women on Facebook. Although I thought her fake-Facebook idea was brilliant, I told her to be very careful because she may not like what she finds out. This had the potential to go very wrong. But she was adamant: She wanted to do it.
The next day, I went to her house and we began to "create" the perfect girl. We named her Jessica, found a picture of a cute blonde in a bikini and sent out a mass request to random people to befriend her. Finally, we sent out a friend request to Carrie's husband, "Tim": "Hi Tim, I don't know if you remember me, but I was an intern at your firm three years ago. You're looking pretty good. I hope all is well. Jessica."
We hit "Send Request" and waited. Less than an hour later, we got a reply: "Oh yeah, of course I remember you! How are you? What are you up to?"
Wow! We couldn't believe it. He actually said he remembered her. Needless to say, Carrie was pissed off.
Jessica and Tim began chatting every few days. The days turned into weeks. He never -- not once! -- mentioned his wife or kids. Plus he had no pictures of them on his Facebook page. The chatting started becoming very flirtatious, which then turned into sexual innuendos and finally led to Tim asking Jessica out for drinks.
It was all I could do to contain Carrie's rage. Should she continue with this or stop? Carrie decided she had to go all the way.
Jessica agreed to meet Tim for drinks. On the day of meeting, Carrie panicked. She wanted to give Tim an opportunity for an easy out. She called him and asked him out on a "date night" because their babysitter was available. But Tim told her he had an important meeting with the president of his company and wouldn't be able to miss it.
So we continued with the plan. The meeting was set for 7 p.m. I was the backup. At 7:10, I went into the restaurant to check out whether or not Tim was there. There he was, sitting at the bar. I sent Carrie a text with the go ahead.
Carrie walked up to Tim, gave him a kiss on the cheek and sat down on the bar stool next to him. You could see the panic in Tim's eyes. Looking around the room, Tim asked Carrie what she was doing there. Carrie told him Jessica had told her they were meeting for drinks -- so she thought she'd join them.
Tim was clearly freaking out and trying to cover up why he was there. Suddenly, Carrie ripped into him and told him that she was Jessica.
Then, well ... let's just say the people in the restaurant got dinner and a show that night.
Tim gave her the "we're just friends having drinks" speech, the "I didn't do anything!" speech and the always awesome "I would NEVER cheat on you" speech.
But Carrie couldn't get past the chats filled with sexual overtones, the fact that he lied to her about having a meeting and his willingness to meet this girl for drinks.
They tried to work it out, but Carrie just didn't trust him anymore. She never really had, obviously. This, plus other issues they've had during their 13-year marriage, has led them to seriously talk about divorce.
Facebook has done great things by reconnecting family and friends. I just didn't know it was a good spy tool too.