Momlogic's Talitha: Just the other day while filling out paperwork at a prospective daycare, the admissions office gave us a 'less than pleasant' look when we gave them two separate last names for my daughter and I. Smirking, they asked "when are you planning to get married?" Even though we have every intention of getting married, it is none of their business, and should certainly not be an issue when determining whether our baby gets into the program. This lady clearly had an issue with the fact that we weren't married. Many others do too. Every time I speak with my mother she laughingly asks me "So, do you have a date yet?" It's so annoying.
The fact is, does it really matter? If there are two parents that love their kids, they love each other and they're happy, who cares if they are married or not, especially considering the rate of divorce in this country. I'd even go as far to say that maybe it's better the parents DON'T get married! If my boyfriend, or girlfriend, or fiance, or whoever happens to be the parent of my child and I are happy, if we love our baby unconditionally and we are good parents, what is a piece of paper going to do but complicate things? I am not knocking those who are married and, in fact, I'm sure at some point my guy and I will tie the knot too, but what's the big deal if people decide not to marry?
When the daycare lady asked us if we were planning on getting married I told her we are already married, the three of us. And that is what we are. We are a family, we are committed, we are one.
We didn't want to go to that daycare anyway...