They may be great childcare professionals, but why give my husband the temptation?
Dr. Wendy Walsh: Exactly 12 years ago, when my first child was born, I began the confusing task of interviewing childcare professionals. It was my first step into that fascinating world of the mommy/nanny child-rearing alliance, and I had no idea what to ask or how to judge whether or not a person would keep my baby safe. But there was one thing I knew for sure: This woman, with her feminine pheromones, living in my house with my husband, would NOT be young and hot.
Call me vain. Call me insecure. Or call me practical. I'd read enough Harlequin romances in my life to know the rules. When the time came to hire a nanny, I knew more about men than children -- and if there's one thing I know about men, it is this: They get confused sometimes. Not EVERY man, of course. And not in every circumstance. But in a house where an episiotomy- or C-section-incision has become a coitus interruptus, a man can get a little randy. And why tempt the poor fella with a Swedish model in her pajamas at the breakfast table? It's just cruel.
The concept reminds me of a camp for disadvantaged kids that I used to run in a government-housing project. These children were seriously suffering economically. The first day of camp, I asked one of their public-school teachers where I should put down my purse. He smiled and said, "These are all basically good kids, but why torture them? Leave your purse at home."
And my man was basically a good guy. But I also knew that I was dog-tired, flabby, grumpy and not about to put on a Victoria's Secret anything. So why have Tiger Woods' wife strutting through the house?
|Dr. Wendy Walsh holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology, and her area of interest is Attachment Theory -- a psychological, evolutionary and ethological theory that provides a descriptive and explanatory framework for understanding interpersonal relationships between human beings. As a psychological assistant registered with the California Board of Psychology, Dr. Walsh has treated individuals, couples and families for a variety of mental-health concerns, including personality disorders, anger management, eating and substance disorders and depression. Connect with Dr. Walsh on Facebook.|