The fact that celebs actually think they can get away with their affairs is one of the things that shocks me most about the Jesse James-Sandra Bullock saga.
Ellen S: I usually could care less about celebs' love lives. But I happened to catch Barbara Walters' pre-Oscars interview with Sandra Bullock, and I was touched by the tender way Sandra (who I think of as a tough cookie) spoke of her husband, Jesse James. They showed a clip of her winning the Golden Globe Best Actress award in January, where she said, "To my husband: There's no surprise that my work got better when I met you, because I never knew what it felt like for someone to have my back." And I felt all melty.
Then the news hit that he'd had an affair with Michelle "Bombshell" McGee, a self-described "busty tattoo-and-fetish model," with all its icky details (like the suggestive texts they exchanged). And I was floored.
Jesse. Dude. I don't care if you've apologized. WTF?!
I felt the same about Tiger Woods, who seemingly holds the record for the most insane amount of cheating by a celeb. These men bother me on two levels: 1) How could you, when you have such great wives -- not to mention kids? And 2) How could you, as a public persona, think you could get away with this?
On some level, I understand why a husband or wife might cheat. But when you've got a celebrity marriage, it is crazy to think that you can fly under the radar. Especially in the text/Twitter/Facebook/wear-your-heart-on-your-BlackBerry world we live in.
Celebrity marriages aren't like the rest of ours'. For better and for worse, fair or not, they come under intense scrutiny. They are tracked by the tabloids and hunted by the paparazzi and gossip sites like TMZ. Thinking you could get away with cheating is just plain mind-boggling.
James blamed "poor judgment" in the apology he issued. Um, I'll say.
But I honestly just don't get how he figured nobody would ever find out. Do you?!
|Ellen S. is a mother of two, an editor, a writer and a professional snacker. She blogs daily at To The Max, a blog about raising a child with special needs.|