So, what do my wife and I fight about? The big things like sex, money and the kids? Nah -- that would be too easy, too typical.
Bruce Sallan: We fight about the dog hair, where the dishes go, the vacuuming, wiping off the counters, folding the laundry and the kids' messy rooms. Oh -- and about making the bed with ALL those pillows!
I was a 24/7 single dad to my two boys (and two dogs) for several years. During those years, I lapsed in the area of cleanliness. There were more pressing things to deal with, in my opinion. Dating again, for one thing. And, more seriously, the emotional fallout my boys endured because their (biological) mom abandoned them.
We had a weekly housekeeper. She vacuumed, dusted, did the toilets, changed our sheets, laundered them and more. We did laundry occasionally, when there was nothing left clean. And we did use the dishwasher. But for the three of us, surviving the emotional fallout put cleaning chores low on our priority lists. Plus, to be honest, we didn't care all that much.
Enter my future wife. After my divorce, my sons and I had sold our big house -- and we'd never unpacked all the boxes. Our new garage was completely full. My wife has been trying to civilize us ever since. Quite a task and, truly, the only thing we regularly argue about. We're all boys/guys, and we truly don't give a hoot about it -- other than the fact that we care about how my wife feels. So we try. But what do I know? I'm just a guy.
|Bruce Sallan gave up his showbiz career a decade ago to raise his two boys, now 13 and 16, full-time. His internationally syndicated column, A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW, is his take on the challenges of parenthood and male/female issues, both as a single dad and, now, as a newly remarried dad in a blended family. Join Bruce's A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW fan page at Facebook and follow him on Twitter. To contact Bruce, visit his new website brucesallan.com.|