This comes as no big surprise to us sleep-deprived moms!
A new study by the National Sleep Foundation has found that roughly one in
every four Americans married or living with someone are too tired to
(Only one in four? In our offices, it's sometimes four in four -- especially on rough days.)
The sleep study also found that:
• Caucasians are the most likely to suffer from insomnia, at a rate of one in 10.
• Blacks were the most likely to have sleep apnea, at a rate of one in seven.
• Hispanics were most likely to be kept up at night worrying about work, money, relationships and health problems, with about three in every eight losing sleep over those concerns.
• Asian-Americans slept the best of all, with five of every six saying they got a good night's sleep at least a few nights a week. (They were also less likely than members of other groups to watch TV or drink alcohol before going to bed, and less likely to share a bed wih a spouse or partner.)
The fact that one in four people are too tired for sex comes as no surprise to psychologist and ML expert Dr. Wendy Walsh. "Everyone is tired," she says. "It's the great recession and those with jobs are working harder than ever. Those without are stressed out! And with kids to raise, who can think about sex? But in a healthy monogamous relationship, it's important to fight boredom and fatigue to keep intimacy alive."
Here is her top tip for doing just that:
Make a sex plan! "It's not unromantic to schedule sex and even plan the place and special acts," she says. "Change is the one thing that stimulates the brain. So, change the place, the time, the wardrobe and -- especially -- the position! Move away from a narrow sexual script to keep intimacy alive."
Be honest. Are you too tired for sex, especially since becoming a mother? If not, what's your secret for staying energized?