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One in Four Americans Too Tired for Sex!

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This comes as no big surprise to us sleep-deprived moms!

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A new study by the National Sleep Foundation has found that roughly one in every four Americans married or living with someone are too tired to have sex.

(Only one in four? In our offices, it's sometimes four in four -- especially on rough days.)

The study focused on differences in sleep habits among ethnic groups -- but found that being too tired for sex was a problem for all groups, reports the NY Times.

The sleep study also found that:

• Caucasians are the most likely to suffer from insomnia, at a rate of one in 10.

• Blacks were the most likely to have sleep apnea, at a rate of one in seven.

• Hispanics were most likely to be kept up at night worrying about work, money, relationships and health problems, with about three in every eight losing sleep over those concerns.

• Asian-Americans slept the best of all, with five of every six saying they got a good night's sleep at least a few nights a week. (They were also less likely than members of other groups to watch TV or drink alcohol before going to bed, and less likely to share a bed wih a spouse or partner.)

The fact that one in four people are too tired for sex comes as no surprise to psychologist and ML expert Dr. Wendy Walsh. "Everyone is tired," she says. "It's the great recession and those with jobs are working harder than ever. Those without are stressed out! And with kids to raise, who can think about sex? But in a healthy monogamous relationship, it's important to fight boredom and fatigue to keep intimacy alive."

Here is her top tip for doing just that:

Make a sex plan! "It's not unromantic to schedule sex and even plan the place and special acts," she says. "Change is the one thing that stimulates the brain. So, change the place, the time, the wardrobe and -- especially -- the position! Move away from a narrow sexual script to keep intimacy alive."

Be honest. Are you too tired for sex, especially since becoming a mother? If not, what's your secret for staying energized?

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7 comments so far | Post a comment now
Anonymous March 9, 2010, 3:58 PM

If those idiots would stop overscheduling their lives, they wouldn’t be tired!

Anonymous March 9, 2010, 4:04 PM

Stop over scheduling yourself and you won’t be tired. DUH!

Black Iris March 9, 2010, 4:42 PM

The best solution is getting sleep. There’s also mornings, lunchtime, and getting to bed earlier if you can.

Anonymous March 15, 2010, 5:41 AM

Some people don’t have a choice on if their lives are over scheduled or not.

Christina March 15, 2010, 12:37 PM

Whenever I was going to school and working in a fast-paced retail setting, I was more stressed than I had ever been in my life. $40 a week for working three days a week while going to school 4 days a week could drive someone absolutely mad. I had never fought more with my boyfriend and I had never been more concerned about money in my life.

Autumn Rendall August 14, 2010, 11:13 AM

@Bob would you mind elaborating on your point a bit auto

Joel Fagnan August 14, 2010, 11:29 AM

I agree with you, but do you think its really accurate?

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