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Why Can't Guys Keep It In Their Pants?

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Yes, Jesse James, we're talking about YOU!

momlogic's Julie: Hearing the news that Jesse James reportedly cheated on Sandra Bullock broke our hearts. How could this man who looked on so adoringly as she won the Academy Award be such a DOG?!

When she won the Golden Globe, Sandra said that before she met Jesse, she "never knew what it was like for someone to have my back." There were tears in Jesse's eyes as she won the Academy Award. Meanwhile, he was swapping texts, spit and bodily fluids with tattoo-model Michelle 'Bombshell' McGee? Maybe it was JESSE who should have won the Academy Award, because he did one hell of an acting job there in the audience, playing Supportive Husband.

Watch Sandra speak lovingly about Jesse to Barbara Walters here:

Watching that now almost turns our stomachs. We are outraged for Sandra!

WHY do men cheat? We have covered that ground many times ... with Tiger, with Gordon Ramsay, with Mark Sanford, with John Edwards ... the list goes on and on. In short, when they have opportunity, many of them take it.


According to relationship expert Charles Orlando, the top reasons men cheat are:

* Lack of emotional intimacy
* Marital or relationship unhappiness
* To reaffirm his desirability
* To re-experience feelings of romance
* Loneliness
* Just want to have sex, or sexual variety
* Presented with an opportunity to have sex without getting immediately caught
* To satisfy sexual curiosity about having sex with a particular person
* The "thrill of the chase"
* The desire to feel important or special (an ego boost)

Will our men cheat on us? We've all read the warning signs. Here at momlogic, we've even spoken to mistresses to get their perspective, in our series "Who's Sleeping With Your Husband?"

For some reason, this cheating scandal (which is still unconfirmed, but seems pretty likely to be true) is affecting many of us differently than the rest. Sandra is America's Sweetheart. She is a loving stepmother to Jesse's three kids. Even though she and Jesse were an unlikely couple, they seemed like such a good match. They just seemed like the couple you'd want to hang out with.

But now ... it seems like Jesse James is a cheater just like the rest.

Sandra was on top of the world March 7 when she won the Academy Award ... now, 11 days later, her marriage is reportedly shattered and she's suffered the ultimate betrayal. It just seems so unfair.

Sandra has survived losing her mother ... and she will survive this, too, we're sure. But stories like this just make us hate guys who cheat even more.

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26 comments so far | Post a comment now
june affair March 18, 2010, 1:08 PM

Who writes this stuff? Surely Jesse felt some embarrassment and guilt at the award reception. But having a movie star wife and watching her in romantic scenes is far from a normal relationships. Imagine your office job required and occasional lunch makeout fling ? Yet normal on a movie set. Not normal at “not movie set” jobs. doesnt stop ones heart from the adrenaline rush of everyone seeing you kissing the “other person” hmmm but im single tend to gravitate towards married or involved women.

Kerri March 18, 2010, 1:50 PM

Julie, I agree with you. Jesse James is a liar and a cheater and it makes me sick. The fact that he cheated with this fetish model makes me watch to vomit retch vomit. I feel sorry for Sandra and his kids. Was it worth it Jesse?

Anonymous March 18, 2010, 2:52 PM

Could he have cheated with someone more uglier?

adelaide dancing March 18, 2010, 3:30 PM

it’s very disappointing to see something like this happen to sandra :(

justice2 March 18, 2010, 5:14 PM

Jesse knew Sandra’s job was acting and that is a stupid excuse - June Affair - GET REAL!

Hopefully Sandy doesn’t get an STD!

Traci March 18, 2010, 5:22 PM

Seriously. Sandy needs to get checked for STDs now. So sad :(

bald-headed baby March 18, 2010, 6:38 PM

honestly most men are not meant to be monogamists. the incidence for public figures isn’t any higher than for regular joes. people need to stop making a mockery of marriage and just date until they are seriously ready to settle down, if ever.

Michelle March 18, 2010, 6:58 PM

Sandra, will get on with her life and one day meet the real man of her dreams. It’s not always so nice to date or marry the bad guy.

Mumps March 19, 2010, 5:29 AM

I am really sick of these disgusting women. Go to therapy, learn to respect yourself and others. If all women pledged not to have sex with a married man (unless its your married man) we would no longer have a 53 percent divorce rate in this country. It’s a given that Jesse isn’t any better, his lack of respect and love for the woman he married speaks loads about him. Dump him Sandra, you deserve better!

Sheron March 19, 2010, 6:05 AM

I agree she should get checked for STD’s. One of the most disturbing things in the article was, according to tattoo girl, he didn’t use a condom. I can only imagine how icky Sandra feels about that. Now, he has exposed her to every sleaze bucket tattoo girl ever did. YUCK!!!

Anon March 19, 2010, 7:03 AM

So because she’s a model, and has tattoos, she’s obviously a disease-ridden sleaze?

She did a bad thing, duh… but the way she chooses to express beauty on her body doesn’t really have anything to do with it.

Sheron March 19, 2010, 7:30 AM

I called her tattoo girl because I don’t know her name. Having tattoos doesn’t make her sleazy. She had sex with a married man and sold her story for $$$, regardless of who it would hurt. She had inprotected sex with a stranger. I’m thinking it wasn’t the first time.

Anonymous March 19, 2010, 8:43 AM

Zip it up!

Anony-moose March 19, 2010, 10:56 AM

Yeah… why would successful, high profile men use their wealth and fame to screw as many women as possible?! It just doesn’t make any sense!

Bill Coleman March 19, 2010, 2:03 PM

How stupid must Jesse be not to see that Michelle was going to use him to boost her own celebrity? It really is true that the male brain descends to the smaller head.

(His saying no to “latex love” I can understand; if he’s going to lose it all for a few trips down to the “Y,” he might as well enjoy thoroughly. All tattooed girls do not have diseases.)

When he pleads sex addiction and goes to join Tiger in rehab, I hope Sandra doesn’t buy it. I predict Jesse and Tiger in a new reality show: “Sex Addict Survivors,” in which real husbands cheat, plead addiction, and go to rehab. Which one will win the wife’s forgiveness?

Sheron March 19, 2010, 2:59 PM

Again - tattoos have nothing to do with it! Of course all tattooed girls do not have diseases. She still had unprotected sex on a couch in an office with a stranger she had just met. I’m sure this wasn’t her first rodeo. Jesse then subjected his wife to whatever he picked up from her.

Gail Cooke March 19, 2010, 4:25 PM

If he wanted sleep around, he should have stayed single. Period. If you can’t handle a marriage, get a divorce. And then sleep around. Because lying and cheating are low class. What if he got a disease…and passed it on to his wife…very classy. What if one of his skanks got pregnant? That would be very classy as well. If you have to lie, hide things, or hope to God no one finds out about something, you know what you’re doing is wrong. Sleeping around, getting caught and then claiming that your sorry or you love the person (ie: your wife/husband) is so selfish. Chances are you’re just sorry you got caught. Just shows you’re liar AND a cheat. Personally, if I were her, I’d take him for all he’s worth. Karma is a harsh mistress.

Sheron March 19, 2010, 4:58 PM

I heard something interesting on the radio this morning - but I caught it mid-story, so I don’t know if there is any kind of truth to it, or if the DJ’s were just speculating. They were talking about Jesse’s ex-wife hiring this girl to do exactly what she did, so he and Sandra would split, and she (the ex-wife) could regain custody of her kids. If that is true - ex-wife is pretty dang smart! It’s sad that Jesse couldn’t just say no and uphold his honor for Sandra.

Anonymous March 20, 2010, 8:55 AM

tuck it in and zip it up!

june affair March 20, 2010, 9:19 PM

may be it is a stupid excuse, i dont have any for cheating on wifey, however i dont see how an actress wife can smooch the co workers and hubby sits home to watch along side everyone else. this is not an answer just an observation. :)~

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